Ending the Messy Room Wars

One of the most common battles between kids and their parents centers around messy rooms. What may start as a simple request for hygiene can quickly spiral into a control issue. And the more you ask, plead or insist, the less likely your child is to clean his room. Below are some tips from the parents of iVillage on how to de-fuse the situation. Not all of these tips will result in a clean room, but they can help you call a truce in your home.

Your Child's Point of View
"A room is very important to a young adolescent. It is their cocoon, their greeting place to have friends over, and their world. Letting them control it is their right. Yet, it is your right as a parent to have the final say, as long as you keep your perspective reasonable given their age. Try to look at your pre-teen's room not as Martha Stewart but as an anthropologist. The room and what's in it is a key to understanding who your daughter is becoming. What is she collecting? It's her private world, her private life. We can be invited in, but we can not to control it."
~ iVillage member Askmarg1

Setting Some Ground Rules
"We have a few basic rules as far as keeping rooms clean here: 1) It can't be a fire hazard -- there have to be clear paths through the room so that you can navigate across the room safely. 2) It can't be a "bug-attractor" -- no food in the room, no food wrappers or anything that is yummy looking to a bug. As my exterminator will attest to, I hate bugs, and will let loose an entire can of Raid on a single ant if it's inside my house. 3) My daughter can keep her clothes where she'd like, but she can't expect me to replace them if they are abused, iron them if they get wrinkled, or wash them if they're not in the hamper on laundry day. (And when my daughter heard that scorpions and spiders love piles of clothing, her clothing got picked up pretty quickly and has been much better since then!) 4) She pays for replacement of any property (hers, mine, school's, or anyone's) that gets damaged in her room due to misuse or abuse due to a messy room or neglect. My daughter's room is not neat-as-a-pin, however, it is reasonable most of the time, so it works pretty well."
~ iVillage member Sami0911

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