Emotional Rescue: Your Breakup and Depression Questions, Expertly Answered

Carol Landau, Ph.D., responds to message board posts on breaking up without getting depressed (18 Photos)

Carol Landau on Jan 5, 2012 at 5:01PM

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Emotional Rescue: Your Breakup and Depression Questions, Expertly Answered

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The Expert Said: "You Can Avoid Despair by Finding Other Meaning in Your Life"

The end of a marriage can be a huge loss, which brings sorrow. Even if the relationship was unfulfilling, it was one that you once believed in and valued, so the end of it may feel like failure. If there are children involved or your religion frowns on divorce, the end of your marriage can be devastating, which is why many people avoid it even if they are desperately unhappy. Given all that, it’s easy to fall into despair. You can help keep it at bay by finding other meaning in your life, whether through other relationships, helping your children (or other children) or getting involved in a cause you believe in. It may be difficult at first, but you will eventually discover new freedom. In the meantime, work on accepting your divorce with dignity and kindness, especially if you have children. It is tragic to see children cope with divorce as well as ongoing conflict between their parents.

Going through a breakup? Talk to others who are going through the same thing on the Breaking Up Is Hard to Do message board.


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