iVillage: Studies have shown that married men are healthier and drink and smoke less than single men. Why?
Solomon: Overall, men who are married are more settled down. Women watch out for the family. When a man gets sick, a woman is right there generally overseeing it. If a man is alone, nobody is watching the food intake. There are very clear statistics that show married men live longer and are healthier than men who are widowed and not remarried or divorced and not remarried.
iVillage: Is it because no one is keeping tabs on divorced men's behavior?
Solomon: Women are trained to nurture, to feed. Men very often leave things to their wives. She makes the social schedule. People come in their lives. People who are connected to groups of people are healthier. Women make the plans. Men who are getting divorced are more likely to be isolated. They look for women, generally, not for male-bonding friends. More often they're ashamed to talk to men about the failure of their marriage.
iVillage: Can ex-wives (and soon-to-be-ex wives) do anything to keep their former partners from behaving badly, especially when kids are involved?
Solomon: If men are still connected to their children, that makes them part of a family, even if they're divorced. Some men divorce their children at the same time. They forget birthdays, they don't show up for things. Keeping [the man] in the picture is better, even if she hates it.
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