Kirstie Alley recently talked to People about her weight-loss struggles and how she often sets the bar too high when she’s trying to slim down. “I have to be below 140 to really look good,” she said. “Actually, do you want my real goal? My real goal’s always too low. I love the way I look at, like, 128.” How many times have we let that number on the scale make us feel guilty and upset with ourselves? Here women from our community who have been there share their words of wisdom with Kirstie.