Photo Credit: Courtesy Felicity Huffman
In her exclusive blog for the iVillage blog series CelebVillage, actress Felicity Huffman writes about about how she cherishes husband William H. Macy every day -- and not just on holidays.
I feel bullied by Valentine’s Day. It’s not just the scramble of finding cards for my children’s classmates (which I always do the day before so all that’s left are the ones with Star Wars or Hello Kitty on them), but I also hate the pressure to do something special for my husband. If I don’t do something on Valentine’s Day that means I am neglecting him and don’t love him enough. If I do do something (and I just said doodoo, as my daughter always points out), then I am letting greeting card companies dictate when and how I cherish my husband. Shouldn’t it be according to my own timeline?
Next is what to get him: I feel odd getting him flowers. Chocolates are nice, but boring. A great bottle of scotch with sexy lingerie (for me) nestled in a box is always a win, but this year I am going to pick out a small part of our life together and sing its praises. It’s something sweet that is nestled in the fabric of our marriage; going to bed.
I am not talking about doing the one thing (although I love that too). I am talking about climbing into bed and going to sleep. I sometimes get so excited about getting into bed with him that I literally bounce on the bed and kind of squeal. (As I have gotten older, this becomes less endearing and more bizarre. It’s one thing when a 22 year old does it, but when a woman in her late 40s indulges in that behavior, it’s a little Grey Gardens. But I can’t help it.). I get to climb into bed, sleep beside him all night and, here’s the kicker…I GET TO WAKE UP BESIDE HIM.
I love the way he smells, his big, masculine presence, how he can sleep through anything. I love that it is hours and hours together. The house is quiet; our sweet children are safe and asleep. We are together, so close and yet separate. Sometimes we talk. Sometimes he just rolls close to me and I rub his head while I read my own book. Sometimes if the world has been particularly chaotic, or if we have a wonderful book, we'll read to each other. Our favorites are David Benioff’s City of Thieves, William Manchester’s The Last Lion, and Owen Wister’s The Virginian. My husband has a beautiful voice and it’s so comforting to listen as I snuggle under the covers. Going to sleep together is a hidden surprise in the box of marriage that wasn’t announced in the advertising. It’s like eating cake after eating cake. It’s all good and it’s not even fattening.
Well, there, I just sent out a Valentine, didn’t I?
Follow Felicity Huffman on Twitter at @FelicityHuffman and check out her official Facebook page. And her new site for women and moms, WhatTheFlicka.com, is coming soon! And click here to read more exclusive posts in the CelebVillage series.