By now, you should have a few dates lined up. You must get prepared for them. This includes creating a pre-date ritual, such as playing dance music, to put you in an upbeat mood. I often take a long bath before a date and enjoy a glass of wine or a cup of tea to calm my nerves. It's important to mentally prepare yourself for a date, by imagining yourself having a good time. Tell yourself that you're going to have fun. This will also help you develop a positive mental attitude and build your self-confidence.
You will also want to come up with a dating strategy that feels right for you. For example, for a first date, I like to go out for coffee or lunch. I make it a rule not to go out on a first date on a Friday or Saturday night. I like to keep it casual, and I recommend you do the same. If you meet for lunch, you always have work obligations as an excuse if the date is a bust. And if you're having fun, you can always agree to meet again. Be yourself. You're checking each other out, but you don't need to work at it to impress him. He's not looking to be swept off his feet by you
Speaking of dating more than one man at a time, I believe every woman should date at least three men at once. I call this my pair-and-a-spare plan. This is the number that has worked for me and for hundreds of my clients and workshop attendees. Perhaps two will be enough for you. Or maybe your number is five. There's no such thing as having too many men in your life! Guys don't sit by the phone waiting for someone to call or email. Darlin', you're a woman on the go with lots of options.
Succeeding in dating is about being open to new experiences and allowing yourself to fail as many times as it takes before you succeed, while maintaining a positive attitude. It's also about loving yourself for who you are and believing that someday someone else will love you for who you are
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