How a man makes the transition into fatherhood is a great mystery. Until fairly recently, men hadn't talked much about how to successfully navigate these waters; even today, they have very few role models. When you add that to all the changes fatherhood brings, life as a new dad can seem pretty overwhelming -- especially if you think you have to face the changes and issues by yourself.
The good news is, you're not alone. Becoming a parent takes a little bit of getting used to -- for you as well as your spouse. You'll probably feel that as you both try to take care of everything, it's often hard to even find time to talk to each other. And sometimes you may discover you could use another sounding board. We all do.
Becoming a new dad requires a balancing act as you adjust to your shifting priorities. But ultimately, you will find personal growth.
Men hear a lot of mixed messages about what it means to be a good man as well as a good father and husband:
-- Support your wife and child, and keep your own need for support to yourself. Hold on to vital aspects of your identity, and be transformed into a father.
-- Find fulfillment at home and at work.
-- Appreciate your partner as a new mother, and accept the lack of sex, intimacy and attention that this new role may bring to your relationship with her.