You Speak in Future Tense
We're still stunned, this many years later, by how many women turn the topic, after an hour with a guy, toward the future. Let's be brutally honest for a minute: You may have had your trousseau picked out since you were seven, but no man grows up longing to be married. Not one. Sure, they all assume at some point they'll settle down, have a couple of kids and a nice house somewhere, but the thought hardly fills him with the excitement of, say, the Super Bowl. How many weddings have you been to where the groom gives a toast that says something to the effect of "Wow, she snagged me when I least expected it"? As one of our buddies attests, speaking for so many men, "The worst thing a woman could do when we first meet is turn to me and say, 'So, what do you think about love?'" So let's say that unknowingly, you may have erred in one of these directions. It's not too late to save the night, because you can still get out with your dignity intact. And that means recognizing he's mustering up the energy to cut bait, and then do it first.
Copyright © 2006 by Dushan Zaric and Jason Kosmas. Reprinted by permission. Excerpted from the book You Didn't Hear It from Us: Two Bartenders Serve Women the Truth about Men, Making an Impression, and Getting What You Want by Dushan Zaric and Jason Kosmas, published by Atria Books, an imprint of Simon & Schuster, Inc. (Available at SimonSays.com). ISBN: 0-7432-9343-6, $19.95)