The bra and shirt dilemma

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Registered: 06-24-2005
The bra and shirt dilemma
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Sat, 08-06-2005 - 2:49pm


Hi, I'm new to What Should I Wear?
For awhile it seems I have been having a problem with bra measurements and after postponing for a while I got my correct bra measurement from a proffessional at a department store. I have discovered I am 34DD. And although I have the correct measurement, I am having problems finding the right top to wear. I still continue to wear baggy t-shirts, because I feel the tops I see in the stores are too clingy. I do not like to draw attention to myself and am shy. Right now I have one brand bra in multiple copies of the same colour (white)and unfortunately shopping for my size although I know my bra size is hell because I first have to find my size and when I do I usually find one or three (which are not even good enough to buy).

I have a slim figure that is hourglass shaped, but I don't really know what tops to look for when I go shopping and when I go shopping it may look great on the hanger but then I try it on and it doesn't go. The major problem I have is the t-shirts that are ok; that fit ok in the bust area, but are too wide in the waist area and makes me look wider than I am. I have a small waist but I find most t-shirts don't have room in the bust area and don't narrow in at the waist. I just want casual tops (I do not wear tank tops, revealing top or clingy tops).
I would not wear outfits to emphasize my breasts. I have a laid back and casual style. Being shy, I don't want want a top that screams "look at me!" which is especially hard when there are stores with so many tops to enhance cleavage and all that. I would really like some advice (I am starting to get sick of wearing oversized shirts). Could anyone give me suggestions?

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Registered: 07-29-2005
Sun, 08-07-2005 - 7:24pm

Welcome to my world. ^_^

I'm definitely not the type to wear the shirts for females these days. However, I'm not sick of baggy men's clothes and T-shirts.

I can think of 4 options you have.

1) Get stretchy tops. One that has a high neckline bust can stretch to fit your bust size.

2) If you're any good at sewing, change the shirts you already have, or find one and change it to what you like.

3) Get your shirts custom-made. This can be expensive, though...

4) Get used to baggy shirts. Unfortunately, it's almost impossible to find tops that are perfect, or (at least these days) actually cover enough to stay modest.

I wish you luck. ^_^

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Registered: 03-22-2005
Sun, 08-07-2005 - 7:26pm

Hello,

I just stumbled onto your message. I am not that big, just a 34C, but they look big on a 5'1" frame. Some of the cloths that work for me are wrap style shirts and V-necks (not plunging, just enough to create a vertical illusion). Go with soft, flowing (but not clingy) fabrics and avoid stiff ones. Last week I got a nice twin-set from Eddie Bauer. The tank top under is quite fitting, but I only botton the top button of the cardigan so the bust area is covered but I can show off my waist. I have also heard about "minimizer bras", maybe you can give those a try.

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Registered: 04-28-2004
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 10:43am

Hi Sharon!


Modesty is always in style and you're right to want to call attention to you and not simply your physical blessings. In addition to drawing excessive attention to your bust, clingy tops also have a noticeable tendency to overly emphasize you from behind - in both the exaggerated outline of your bra straps and the way they break up the smooth visual contour of your back under the strain.


It sounds like the problem isn't so much with the tees and tanks, as it is wearing them by themselves. On your next shopping trip, try placing a nice oxford-style linen shirt on top; you would still want something underneath if for no other reason than to cover the open space between buttons. The twinset idea mentioned by the previous poster is an ideal option too. Also, you can use a scarf and drape it over your figure in such a way to highlight and emphasize your face in general (and your eyes in particular).

Accolade
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 12:58pm

Welcome Sharon.


My suggestion would be layer, layer and layer.

 

 

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Registered: 04-05-2004
Mon, 08-08-2005 - 7:30pm
Hi sharon! I agree with Chris. He showed a great picture of what I was thinking would be good. Button up tops like that are good because they hang perfectly. And many times you can find some that do countour at your waist. Prints are better than solids because it serves as somewhat of a camolflauge. Darker colors as well will help minimize size and you can accent with a great lighter shaded skirt or pants. Do play up other features that you have like some trendy shoes, and bling bling earrings with your hair pulled up. Good luck!



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Registered: 06-24-2005
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 4:01pm
Sorry for taking so long. I found your suggestions useful about what tops to wear and yeah it was not top tanks that I had a problem with but wearing them alone. Layering right I can't do cause the weather is hot , but when Fall comes I will know what to look for.
I now know what to look for but have problems finding it. Or when I try it on, it looks like i'm trying too hard or the material is thin where you can easily see through the top. Last week I did buy a minimizer bra and noticed a difference. I couldn't help but feel put out that the selection was limited and most of the bras were the kind my grandmother wears. They are fine for her but for a girl my age it is not. I think I have to get a better bra and that is the main reason that makes shopping for tshirts hard. The bras I have do fit but I don't like how they shape, and how they look over tshirts. The main goal is not about comfort, shape, how they look but fitting correctly. I will continue to look to look, but in the meantime any suggestions?
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Registered: 04-05-2004
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 4:09pm
I would try Victoria's Secret. They have great undergarments. I know they can be pricey but if you check their website you're bound to find some good deals. I am assuming it would be Victoriassecret.com
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iVillage Member
Registered: 06-24-2005
Tue, 08-16-2005 - 10:54pm
I heard Victoria's Secret has good stuff. Unfortunately, they don't have any of those stores in Canada. I was thinking of ordering by catalogue but my mom pointed out that brand name sizes sometimes change and the one I order may not fit properly. I was hoping to go to New York over the summer but that isn't happening. I know the bras aren't cheap and was concerned with getting the right size. Since if I had to return the product and get it replace it would be further charges. Has anyone had any luck with Victoria Secret bras or ordering them from catalogue.
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Registered: 06-24-2005
Sun, 09-11-2005 - 10:44am
Well, I finally got to go to a store that had my size. I went to La Senza and it was very nice to not hear the words "I'm sorry we do not have your size." Although, the bras fit, they feel pretty loose. The bras made for older women that I usually wear are very restrictive (they really hold you in completely), whereas these ones although they fit feel more free. Or probably I have never worn bras like these. The material is even different. Is this normal?
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Sun, 09-11-2005 - 1:16pm

The difference in fabric could be a big change, especially if you are going from the all cotton, granny style, to something with lycra and lace in it. A different style is going to feel strange, too, until you get used to it. It's great that you found somewhere that has your size,

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