"bra ettiquette" for revealing shirts?

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"bra ettiquette" for revealing shirts?
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Wed, 05-04-2005 - 3:05am

hey guys!

I was just going through a clothing store the other day, looking at some nice halter style shirts, as well as ones with low neck lines as well, and it got me thinking: "How do i know whether or not i should wear a bra underneath, or if some just can be worn without one?" . I've seen some without padding, and some without. Is a bra always necessary, and how can I tell the difference?.

I mean, the ones ive seen with very low neck lines, and i would assume a bra couldn't be worn with those, unless there is special type of bra to wear, one that dips low in the front?

any tips guys would be fab!

thanx
Lee

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Registered: 04-28-2004
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 7:42am

Welcome, Lee!

Accolade
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Registered: 05-07-2004
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 11:03am
I think the decision whether to wear a bra or not is a personal decision based on the top, its support, what will and will not show, and perhaps most importantly the shape of your breasts. I know way back when (pre-kids) I wore many halters and/or tube tops and never even thought about wearing a bra. Today I wouldn't think of going anywhere without one. For those tops where straps would show there are always strapless bras, though heaven knows there are the bane of every woman! Good luck and let your own good taste be your guide.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 11:09am

I agree with Chris, if your bra strap stays under the shoulder strap of the top, and you are more comfortable wearing one, go with the bra. I don't know about men but I find it tacky to see someone wearing a top with spaghetti straps, and a bra strap twice as wide underneath. There are tops that have what is called a "shelf -bra" that are meant to be worn without a bra. Some have more support than others, just find one you are comfortable with. I've never seen a padded one, then again it's not something I'd look for since I'm big enough on top without adding to it.

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Wed, 05-04-2005 - 11:21am
Amen to the tacky appearance of the bra strap with spaghetti strapped tops. I see them on women of all ages and I sometimes have to fight back the urge to go up to them and tell them how bad they look. I do have a couple of the tops with the built in bras and they do work, well at least for us medium sized (B cup) women. It sure beats tugging all day to keep your bra up off your waist!
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Registered: 04-28-2004
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 11:43am

A second amen, Pat!

Accolade
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Registered: 05-02-2005
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 5:00pm

Well, I am new here and I dont know where everyone is from, but style is different from person to person. Whatever you are comfortable in makes you look amazing. Recently, we have seen the trend in fashion that funky and mix match is good, especially in New York fashion. Take SJP's character Carrie Bradshaw on Sex and the City. Whenever she wears open back, tube tops, tank tops, ANYTHING she wears a full normal bra, and it looks great. If the new funky trend doesn't match your taste, then try to go for the classic strapless, or for the free spirits, bras are sooooo out this season. So many women, especially those with amazing breasts that can get away with it, are going braless. I say the more confident you feel the better, your fashion is your own. Whatever you choose is proper. I hate that someone would think that there is a specific way for each person to wear one thing. You wear whatever you want, however you want. You personal touches and attitude while in the clothing will make the outfit.

Just a different outlook on fashion.

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Registered: 01-24-2004
Wed, 05-04-2005 - 7:13pm

Hey guys......

Thanx for the replies, nice to hear some different point of views on this topic. I agree that one should feel comfortable in what she is wearing, that's all that matters.

I will think about investing inone of those bras that have a "5-way" wearble straps, so i can adjust to a shirt, or get myself a strapless bra.

A few mentioned the 'faux pas" of having bra straps shown when wering thank tops, etc. but, are thin bra straps a bad thing, or does this just refer to thicker straps? As to the "low cut" shirts that are out there, i'll invest in bra that is low enough to wear with it, unless there is already paddign for support , i guess.

one more thing, has anyone tried those "stick on" bra paddings, that supposedly provide support, but obviously are geared towards shirts that a bra couldnt be worn with, given the type?

thanx guys!

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Thu, 05-05-2005 - 12:13am

I tried those stick on things a while ago, and never did figure out the right way to put them on. lol


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Registered: 03-19-2003
Fri, 05-06-2005 - 2:57pm

Hi Moxie.

 

 

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Registered: 12-15-2004
Tue, 05-10-2005 - 7:17pm

Hi Lee!

I'll tell you what I've found works well for me. I'm not sure it would work for everyone as I think it depends on your size and how much support you need/want. I personally don't have sag issues yet so what I do is buy larger adhesive bandages to use. Of course they don't provide support but I've found that they are quite good at eliminating show-through. Fredricks makes an adhesive bra that I've tried to be worn with backless or strapless tops but I didn't think it worked as well as the band-aids, not to mention that it's more expensive and the adhesive tends to wear off after only a couple wearings. But if you want to try it, go ahead.