I want to look my age!

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Registered: 04-01-2009
I want to look my age!
Wed, 04-01-2009 - 2:46am

I am a mature and intelligent, but petite, 21-year-old currently studying to be a high school English teacher. Despite dressing in mature, professional, even sometimes frumpy clothing, I am constantly being mistaken for a student at the high school where I am student teaching. I am always carded at the local mall where you have to be 16 to shop without parental supervision and my tennis partner actually asked if I went to school with her son-- an 8th grader! I am usually a confident person, but these comments are taking a toll on my self-esteem. What can I do to look older than my students??

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Registered: 04-09-2003
Wed, 04-01-2009 - 11:29am


Could you give an example of what you're wearing to look professional? I think the best you can do is just dress nicely being sure that you are dressed more formally than your students. Some jewelry, tailored suits, nice tops, dressy slacks and high-heels can distinguish you from the students. The students are probably dressed very casually.

You can't help being petite and looking young but dressing much nicer than the students is really the only way I can see to look older.

Sorry I can't help more!

-Cindy : - )

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Registered: 03-19-2009
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 2:03am

Been there, done that. Eventually you will be glad that you look young. But it's a real hassle when you are going through it. I remember.

If you're already dressing conservatively, my main advice is hair. Get it professionally styled in a way that looks "older." If your hair is long, keep it in a nice bun or something like that. Slightly darker rather than lighter hair will also suggest that you are older, so if you color your hair, play around with darker shades.

Make up should de-emphasize the eyes (no mascara or anything that enlarges the eyes) because big eyes are often one of the things that make people look younger.

Shoes may also help. Stick to boring "sensible" shoes when you go teach.

Good luck.

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Registered: 02-20-2009
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 2:52pm

First, I want to say that I look younger than I am actually am so I know what you are feeling.

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Registered: 06-30-2003
Thu, 04-02-2009 - 6:04pm

I used to have trouble with that, until I reached my late 30's and parenthood took its toll.