DESPERATE FOR CHANGE

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Registered: 12-30-2004
DESPERATE FOR CHANGE
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Thu, 12-30-2004 - 9:55pm
hello all! happy new year! i hope someone can give me some type of help. i'm 6'1, wear my hair very short, a truck driver, and am almost always mistaken for a man. i'm not gay, so this really irritates me. so, i figured if i got a makeover, i would help my self esteem and get the people out there that are completely blind to realize that i am a female. but, where do i start? i don't do hair, i don't wear makeup. i do smell like a girl though. help me ladies, what do i do? thanks in advance
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Registered: 11-09-2003
Sun, 01-02-2005 - 1:11pm

Hi,

Happy New Year! When you say "I don't do hair or wear makeup" I sense it's not because you don't want to, rather not entirely comfortable with the process. I would suggest making an appointment with a hair stylist and have he/she work with you by showing you how to style your hair that is easy to do on a daily basis but will offer new looks, softer, more feminine. If you wear a cap or hat by choice, would get rid of it for obvious reasons.
Regarding makeup. It's purpose is intended to accentuate the good features and downplay the not so good. It doesn't have to be a choir, it should be fun otherwise you won't use it.

With that said, would consider making a appointment with a local day spa for a facial, having your eyebrows shaped and waxed, maybe the lip line done if necessary. Ask for basic instruction in makeup application that suits your features and lifestyle. I'm not a fan of makeovers at the local mall cosmetic counter. Some can be very good at makeup application but the attendent's primary job is to sell products, not service. Their job is not to teach or inform you on how to apply makeup so recommend a day spa where professionals in makeup offer this individual service.

If you don't shape or tweeze your eyebrow line, that alone can make a dramatic difference in your overall look, not to mention, facials are great for your the skin and feeling
pampered.

Nails: Chances are that you don't have manicures or pedicures. Have a manicure, it's good for the nails but also makes the hands looks nicer. Had a tint of color, something you are comfortable with. That alone will let other truckdrivers know what side you are batting for.

Start slow, don't do everything at once or you will miss the joy of the experience. Go out and buy some magazines that focus on makeup, hair and health. Experiment, try out different lip colors, eyeliners, hair color for that matter. It's all trial and error but that's how you learn what you like and what works best for you.

When you are not on the job, what is your style of dress? Do you tend to dress more masculine than feminine? Look at your closet, have you changed your style of dress or tried anything new or different in the last couple of years? Dress is another way to express yourself, take inventory and look at trying out new patterns or styles to wear.

Jewerly, another accessory that adds accents to one's look.

Teeth: Brighten your smile, those self whitening strips are great and take years off one's age if your teeth or yellow or dull looking.

Hope these tips help. I'll check in later if you write back with any questions.

good luck, mj



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Registered: 12-30-2004
Sun, 01-02-2005 - 6:32pm

hi! thanks for the reply. what i meant that i dont do hair or makeup is that i just dont buy makeup. ive never worn makeup, even as a teenager. im not quite sure why, other than now as an adult and truck driver, i dont have time to apply it. my hair, is just that, my hair. ive never dealt with it either. i will take the clippers and cut it off into a short afro in a minute. i keep color in it at all times, but as far as going to a stylist, i just dont. now recently, i did go to a lady that does hair and the style she put in stayed for a couple of days. but since i sweat in my head, it started to look ragged and i just covered it with a scarf. ive got to have a style that requires me to do absolutely NOTHING. but im not going to give up. the lady i went to a couple of days ago, braided hair in, so now i think i may just keep it done that way. ill try some type of makeup, but, as far as manicures, thats a waste of money for me. i mean, i tried fake nails before and before i could get my truck connected to the trailer, several of them were broken. nail polish, fine. but, when it chips(instantly), then my nails look ragged. i know it sounds as though all im doing is complaining about trying to change my looks, but, i REALLY want to change. the less its going to cost me the better. the less its going to involve me actually having to repair, replenish, recurl, the better. again, thanks for the reply. hope to hear from you soon.

viki

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Registered: 03-19-2003
Mon, 01-03-2005 - 10:12am

Hi and welcome to the board!


 

 

 
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Registered: 12-30-2004
Mon, 01-03-2005 - 7:49pm
hi and thanks for the welcome. i thought about something today and lo and behold, i get a post about it. yes, i do walk and talk like a woman, but, mj, mentioned that i should look inside my closet and look at how i dress when im at home. well, all i wear are jeans and t-shirts, EVERYWHERE. but, on the other hand, i do own other clothes, but since im on the road, i dont want to get grease on them, so i opted for t-shirts.
i went to walmart today(dont want to spend to much) and looked at different types of shirts that i could wear that i wouldnt mind getting grease on, if it were not avoidable. my daughter bought me a tube of lip gloss and we decided that i would just keep my hair cut and braided.
thanks ladies. i guess i really knew the answer, but, ive gotten so comfortable with my attire, that i couldnt see the forest for the trees. thanks again. can we still talk? id like that very much. c'ya
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-06-2005
Tue, 01-11-2005 - 11:02pm

Hey there Viki. I'm glad you guys found something to help you out a little. If you still want some help, let me know. I have some ideas. I just don't want to bombard you with them if your quest is over.

displacedbostonian@hotmail.com

Good luck!

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-30-2004
Fri, 01-14-2005 - 1:25pm
hi! sorry it took so long to answer, but, i've been on the road. anyway, i'd love to hear all suggestions, so please, bombard. if i don't respond quickly, i'll thank you in advance.
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Registered: 03-19-2003
Tue, 01-18-2005 - 8:07am

Hey!