I Need To Look OLDER!

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Registered: 09-19-2005
I Need To Look OLDER!
Tue, 11-15-2005 - 10:34pm

Okay, many of you will think I'm wonkers, but I need help looking OLDER. Not older than my age, but I need to just LOOK my age.

I'm 26, but get ID'd everytime I buy lottery tickets! I'm a manager at a health food store and a certified Phytotherapist and Basic Physiologist, but every day, people say to me, "Oh, what do you want to do when you finish high school?" Aaarrghhh! "17" seems to be the magic age that people label me. Followed by the line, "Oh, you look so young, you'll appreciate it when you're older."

Perhaps this wouldn't bother me so much, but my common-law boyfriend of 6 years, is twenty years older than me. Yes, he's 46. So when we are out together, we always get mistaken for father and daughter! How weird is that?! And hurtful. I do wear makeup, experiment with it (nothing heavy, nothing light, just right...), experiment with hair colours, styles... nothing punk of course! I just have the chubbiest, roundest little cheeks...

Any advice on how to look older, without sacrificing moisturizer? Thanks.

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Registered: 08-15-2004
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 1:22am
I am about your age and often mistaken for around 19 or 20, although one woman did tell me she thought I was fifteen. This does not bother me, but I think if I was in your situation it would. I have noticed that when I am more conservatively dressed or dressed up people guess much closer to my actual age and when I am in jeans/sweats i am mistaken for a high schooler. The only other thing that came to mind is that I never get carded when I'm wearing my glasses, but if you don't wear them that's not much help lol. That's all I got, good luck!
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Registered: 10-14-2003
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 1:51pm

Keep in mind that stores often have to card, it's there policy and they could get fired if they didn't, anyone under the age of 35. My sister is 33 and still gets carded, even though she has a patch of grey:) She's also 5'1" and that's part of the problem. Plus, women are often carded bc they are smaller than men and we often associate smallness with youth. I don't think anything can be done with your mate, since the huge age gap there's bound to be confusion. Anyway, as for tips on looking your age think of your total package. Start with your hair. Do you have a professional, manageable do? What I mean is that long, straight hair that gets pulled back in a ponytail is often a trait of a teenager. A shorter cut with layers and high lights is not only more mature but professional. Then look at your clothes. Stay away from clothes typically associated with a teenager. Message tees, Concert tees, Middriffs, ect. Anything too glittery or very trendy is for teenagers. Pick sleeker, tailored and more professional clothes like a suit or dress shirt and nice trouser pants, ect. Finally, look at your makeup. If you don't wear any, at least wear mascara and eyeliner. Makeup in general makes you look more pulled together and mature too. But stay away from baby pink, bubble pink lip gloss and anything frosty, pastel, or glittery. That stuff is marketed to teens for a reason. Glitter nail polish screams young teenage girl.

Anyhoo, maybe it's a matter of perception. Think of the image you're projecting. If you are constantly stressed that everyone mistakes you for younger than you are, maybe it's bc you aren't projecting the image you desire: a confident, professional, adult woman. If you stand up straight and think I'm a mature adult, then people will see you as that. Okay, maybe easier said then done but that's my two cents for what it's worth.


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Registered: 08-27-2005
Wed, 11-16-2005 - 4:19pm

Cutting your hair short and layered might help. Also switch from blush to bronzer and stay far away from candy colored eyeshadows and glossy lips. Try matte lips instead. Sorry but I can't really think of anything else. Good luck!