In need of writing therapy

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Registered: 07-12-2006
In need of writing therapy
Sun, 11-25-2012 - 10:36pm

Hi...haven't been here for a while, a long while, but in need of writing therapy.  I have tons of things started and some close to being finished, but I always get to a certain point and can't go any further.  Usually it tends to happen when my characters take their relationship to the next level.  I have a good story, but the sex scenes (I write romantic suspense btw) always hang me up.

After the 50 Shades of Gray phenom hit I was talking to one of my old writing buddies about it and she suggested I give writing erotica a try.  Write under a pen name and sell it to Amazon.  She said this would probably help me with getting over writing the sex scenes in my mainstream writing.

Well, now I can write a pretty steamy sex scene, but I have no story to go with it.  I've totally gone the opposite direction.  Haven't been able to go back to my mainstream writing because that all seems too tame now.  I've ruined myself...LOL.

Any advise from anyone????




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Registered: 12-22-2000
Mon, 11-26-2012 - 10:24am

Hello and welcome back!

It sounds like you've found a different niche that you need to explore a bit more. Maybe you can infuse some of the steamy sex scenes into one of your mainstream stories; I bet you could play around with tweaking here and there to see how it works!

Keep us posted!

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Registered: 11-14-2008
Wed, 11-28-2012 - 11:42am

Hi... glad you returned! I'm fairly new to writing myself and enjoy popping over here to talk with other writers, so it's really nice to have you join us again.

I think it's really smart of you to broaden horizons and venture into other styles of writing. It's a mental kind of exercise, focusing on an area you felt weak in... and now, you've toned that baby up! Now, you just need to figure out how you can use that newly developed muscle in your romantic suspense stories. Wink

How about looking at one of your stories, figure out how you would handle the sex scene in erotica setting and then, vanilla it down if it's too overpowering. Don't be afraid to go a little outside the box; be flexible and maybe even a little daring, and don't overthink it by labeling it erotica if it hinges on the boarder of your mainstream norm. No reason you can't tinker around with it till you hit on the right voice... you may be on the path to something unique!

I'm really quite excited for you and I hope you'll keep us updated on your progress!