Sorry I have been MIA

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Registered: 03-09-2004
Sorry I have been MIA
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Mon, 09-17-2012 - 8:49am
Needed some time. My dad passed away Sept 5. Somewhat unexpected. He had cancer and his last few days he hadnt been feeling well but they had still given him months to live. Altho on Sept 5 my mom and I found him on the floor in the morning. He passed away from a heart attack. My heart is broken and lost. He was and still is my hero. Its been so difficult. More so because my siblings have caused so much more grief. Most of you know my mom isnt well either, so we have moved in wirh her. Still have alot to move but the big stuff is here. Heaven was ready for this very strong man, but I wasnt ready to let him go.

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Mon, 09-17-2012 - 10:40am

Oh Chris... I am so very sorry for your loss. I can feel the pain in your words, but I know you'll eventually take some comfort in the thought that your hero is now at peace. And I know that over the past few years, you have became his hero -- and mine, too. I know how difficult it can be caring for ill parents, but I also know how you've eased their lives considerably... and would probably do it again in a hearbeat. Please give your mom a hug for me and know that you are all in my thoughts and prayers.  

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Mon, 09-17-2012 - 2:16pm
I'm so sorry Chris! I know it's hard and takes time! Hugs

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Tue, 09-18-2012 - 9:20am
Thanks ladies! I wouldnt trade what i did for anything. I have no regrets. Unfortunately i have some family members now saying i did it all to suck up. :smileysad: I did it because i love my parents and now sit with my mom each day watching her pain, while hiding my own, while they just make phone calls here and thete. And some not making phone calls because all they want to do is fight. If my dad were here he would be setting everyone straight and it would all be over. I miss him so much and i am trying to follow thru with his wishes altho i am having moments that what i am doing is the right thing.

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Mom to furangel, Chelse
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Tue, 09-18-2012 - 5:53pm

Ah Chris, I'm so sorry that you're having to deal with all that additional drama. As hard as it is for you, you know you've done what you needed to do to be at peace with yourself. That's something the rest of them just don't comprehend. {hugs}

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Wed, 09-19-2012 - 9:52am

That's what everyone keeps telling me about them.  I just want our family back so dad can truly be at peace.


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