QOTD - Thursday

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QOTD - Thursday
Thu, 08-02-2012 - 10:53am

Do you remember at what age or grade you were in when you were first introduced to smoking, drinking, drugs, sex? You know, peer pressure?

I've been thinking a lot about this with Baylie starting high school. Although I know she could have already heard or has seen it already. Eeek!

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Registered: 02-12-2002
Sun, 08-05-2012 - 7:40am

I'm from a different generation than most on here.  Only thing my friends and I did in high school was to sneak one of my friend's Mom's cigarettes.  

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Registered: 10-31-1999
Sat, 08-04-2012 - 1:44pm
I really never felt a lot of pressure to do anything like that. I do remember while we were out camping during the summers as an early teenager that I wondered what it would be like to be drunk or high.

I guess I'm one of the weird ones who waited to have sex until I was married. My mom always told me it was a gift that could only be given to only one guy

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Registered: 04-01-2002
Fri, 08-03-2012 - 7:39am

I remember being hit with a lot in 7th grade.  When I went to school we were in elementary through 6th grade, then junior high was 7th-9th.  In 7th grade some kids were drinking.  Lots of smoking by 6th grade.  At my 20th reunion I was told by 2 girls that I was the smart one back in 6th grade.  They started smoking then and I was disgusted.  They are still hooked and I am still smoke free.   Of course they made fun of me back then and I was black-balled from the "cool clique." 

Drugs, I really don't remember anyone smoking pot until I was 16 or 17.  I tried it once in high school, my senior year, I hated everything about it and never tried again.  I did drink in high school, but not nearly as much as my school friends were doing.  I had to get up and go to swim practice.  I drank a little with those friends, but we had races to win and really couldn't be bothered with much else. I swear that's why I hype the sports with my kids.  And really, it's not just sports, it's doing something.  Do NOT let your kids just sit around.  Those are the kids in school I see having all the issues.  The bandies, athletes, etc. are too busy to get into much. 

Sex pressure didn't set in until I was 17.  But I do think kids have way more pressure for casual sex than we did.  I hear about boyfriend/girlfriend couples swinger parties in high school and I about die.  Why would anyone think that is okay??

I have started the anti-drug, drinking, and smoking talks with my kids.  I'll start on sex with DD soon.  Now she isn't into boys in the slightest. 

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Thu, 08-02-2012 - 11:13am

smoking, drinking, drugs..were all around in junior high but I went roller skating on Friday nights and hung with kids a little older so I was exposed probably 5/6th grade??  I never felt "pressured" to do it though, it was just available if I would have wanted to.

Sex..that was HS and I had lots of dates and never felt pressured, although my Mom had always stressed that sex was something that you can only do once for the first time, to make sure it was with someone that I loved and trusted.  When I finally met the guy that I fell totally in love with, I waited quite awhile (6 months) before I had sex and I did it only after I went and got on birth control pills. 

The big thing around here is pot smoking.  The stats for 9th grade use (even just one time) are around 80%.  My son has a few kids he has played sports with that are doing it and have been since 7th grade.  My son isn't interested and he doesn't "hang out" with those kids anymore but still talks to them on occasion.  I am worried just like you are and we have to hope that what we've said and done all these years will be stronger than the urge to "fit in".  Let me say that our communication lines are open and I am constantly talking to him about the dangers.  Heroine is all over our suburbs right now and it scares the crap out of me.