My husband refuses to take care of his type 2 diabetes and ED
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|Mon, 03-04-2013 - 5:05am|
My husband was diagnosed with diabetes over 12 years ago and I have managed to get him to a doctor 3 or 4 times over that time frame. He will take care of it for a couple months then just quit. I pack his lunch and breakfast and pack healthy foods for him but he will stuff his face with sugary snacks whenever we are out and about or he will bring stuff home or purchase foods that are heavily sugar-laden. A1C was as high as 13.2 (several months ago around 12.3), blood sugars range in the upper 300's. One time his triglycerides were in the 700's (but were down enough several months ago). He is in complete denial that he has diabetes.
He also has ED, started around the same time he started with diabetic symptoms. He does nothing about it and our sex life has totally gone kaput. Nothing. It has been nearly a year since we've had sex (his erections are nearly non-existant). Needless to say, he holds back on love and affection (probably to avoid dealing with it). He tried taking cialis for a month and it did absolutely nothing for him. He is 60 years old but this started when he was in his late 40's. I am 57 years old and I have pretty much given up on having a normal life. I think it is totally unfair for him to starve me out by doing nothing about his problems.
I am sorry he has diabetes and ED, for him, because I know he is literally killing himself in slow motion. Talking does no good, because of his denial, he just gets defensive and won't talk about it. I am frustrated and at my wits end. I don't know how much more I can take. Our youngest child will be 18 y.o. in 5 months and plans on moving out then. I feel like if something doesn't give I may be moving out as well. I know it isn't all about me, but I feel like I at least deserve a normal life. I have suppressed my sexual needs for far too long and I feel like I deserve better than this.
How do I make him understand what he is doing to himself? And our marriage? TIA for any help and insight anyone can give me.