OMG, if one more person tells me I'm too stressed.....

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OMG, if one more person tells me I'm too stressed.....
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Wed, 04-25-2012 - 12:27pm

I'm going to lose it!

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Awww, I may not be able to come by in real life but I sure would be happy to cook a cyber dinner for you. I hope chicken noodle is okay! I'm also going to throw in some gluten-free dinner rolls. {{hugs}}

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Registered: 04-20-2012

OMG! I totally agree. This drives me BATTY. "Just Relax!!" - yeah, like it's that simple. I'll just push my "relax" button and the kids will play quietly in their rooms, dinner will appear on the table, the dog will be walked, and work deadline instantly met- all while I put my feet up.

If someone invents such a button, I'll be the first in line to purchase it!

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Oh, I so hear you -- and if I lived anywhere near you, I'd be dropping off a meal today! (Cooking is one of my stress relievers)

I think sometimes we forget about the simple things that can really help someone feel appreciated and cared about. The experts say that we all need to pamper ourselves sometimes... and that's all well and good. But there's something that makes it feel extra special when the pampering comes from someone else. It kind of makes you feel like someone has got your back, kwim?

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I'll be right there with you, lol. As long as it magically does the laundry, pays the bills, takes the kids to the dentist so I can sleep, fixes the car, and mows the lawn, too!
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Any food someone cooked for me is going to be better than what I cooked myself, simply because I didn't have to cook it. I did pamper myself, though; I had my grandmother's rings repaired and resized so I could wear them, which made me feel so much better, almost like I was getting an awesome Grandma hug.
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DH says this to me ALL the time.

FoodieWorking Mom

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I just want to say, I am so sorry about your mom and MIL passing and then on top of it, you and your husband splitting. You definately have a lot on your plate.

I love the part where you say you are doing yoga and running. I can barely walk and take a shower, so I am a little envious. I wish I could turn back time to when I could do all those things. Sometimes I wonder if it is really FMS I have or if I have something more severe. So many people with FMS can work and do so much, but I am not there.

I hope things ease up soon and you get a break from the stress. Sounds like you are a VERY strong person who keeps fighting hard. hang in there!

     ~ Tina ~

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I started the elliptical around July/August, and all I could do was 5 minutes. It was pathetic, to be honest, but I just added a few minutes each week until I'm up to 30 now. And yoga? I've been doing that since I was about 7 years old and some drug-laden friend of my step father showed me some poses to help with my muscle pain, lol. I started doing yoga very slowly as well, first with a very gentle 10 minute morning routine, 5 minutes of which are meditation, followed by easy poses to loosen everything up. I've just been building up ever since, and thanks to so much stress, and no sex life, lol, I have been able to focus my energy on getting stronger and improving my cardiovascular abilities. Since my husband was sinking into his mental illness no matter what I did, I had no choice but to be strong for the kids AND for me, because no one is going to come to my rescue, ya know? Silly as it may sound, my new mantra, which comes from my favorite comic book character, Emily the Strange, is "Be your own hero!"
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Hehehe, my husband would ask, I'd tell him to wash the dishes, then I'd hear about 15 minutes of screaming and walk out to find one of the kids doing them, sniffing, red faced, and needing a hug.
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Registered: 07-04-2007
I agree, we all should do things for one another when life does us in. I know I would be very appreciative to have someone do something nice for me rather than just "words" to tell me to relax and chill out, that I'm too stressed! You think we don't know it (LOL)!

My DH thinks he is helping when he fixes supper--only thing is he fixes something for just himself! Gosh, what about me--I still have to cook; does he think I live on air alone (lol)!

Michelle/mica_ga


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