Control, Stress, and Health

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Registered: 09-12-2011
Control, Stress, and Health
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Thu, 10-13-2011 - 12:51pm

I was talking with a friend recently who (I think) needs to let go of the small things she can't control. She gets so worked up and I see the stress it causes her. She gets exhausted, headaches, angry, and so on. Most of her triggers are 1- her ex-husband, who is a pain and 2- her job. She's on a low rung of the ladder, and just can't understand why people don't always take her advice on how to do things. The ex-husband thing, I understand getting all emotional. The work thing, I don't. Why get personally offended about things that you aren't responsible for? Sometimes, she just won't drop it. I'd hate to see her lose her job because of this. I mean, on top of the fact that she already has stress headaches and complains of exhaustion all the time. I honestly think she'd be healthier if she was able to muster up a little mind-over-matter attitude. Does anyone have any experience with this?

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Registered: 08-24-2009
Thu, 10-13-2011 - 3:26pm

Welcome to the Women's Health board, June! You're a good ally to want to help your friend keep her stress level in check. :smileyhappy:

I'm sure you are correct that the excess stress likely is harming her health, and possibly her status at work and elsewhere as well. It may not be something she can easily put aside, though.

The iVillage Stress & Women board may have some ideas for coping with or tempering stress that you could suggest to her in a friendly, non-judgmental way, as well as tips for the folks who provide support. Here is a link to it: http://forums.ivillage.com/t5/Stress-Women/ct-p/iv-bhstress

Good luck to you both.




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Thu, 10-13-2011 - 4:26pm
Thank you, I'll ask over there, too.

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