Blame it on menopause

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Registered: 02-18-2013
Blame it on menopause
Sun, 06-30-2013 - 10:28am

There is an older woman at work who can really be a nasty beech at times and she is constantly coming back after biting someone's head off to "explain" that she's sorry but going through menopause. For the longest time we were all sympathetic but now it's like she is using menopause as an excuse to be rude and hateful. I have suggested we all tell her to get some hrt but the other girls at work think that is just as rude. We don't want to get her in trouble but enough is enough. I don't know what else we can do about her.

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Registered: 06-16-1998
Wed, 07-03-2013 - 3:04am

Like the others suggested, if there is somebody in the office that she's friends with, see if that person can talk to her. Tell her that she needs to get a handle on the rude behavior because the coworkers are fed up and the apologies are too little, too late. Maybe a visit to her doctor is in order... its likely that its not really due to menopause but maybe there's something else wrong with her.

Other than that, I think it should be handled like any other workplace issue. You document the incidents and eventually talk to the supervisor or HR. People can and should be sensitive to and accomodating of coworkers problems or health issues for a while but the coworker needs to also be attempting to get control of her issue. You shouldn't have to put up with her rude behavior indefinitely.

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Registered: 10-19-2000
Tue, 07-02-2013 - 12:10pm

Ah yes the same woman probably used to blame her *w*itchiness on PMS too!!   Maybe the thing to do (under cover, of course!!) would be to buy a box of Remifemin and leave it on her desk for her to find!  <<hint, hint>>

Seriously, is there anyone in the office who is fairly close to her that could ask her if she has tried any of the OTC products?  There is a pretty good list at our Menopause Oasis web site.  Just follow this link to take you directly to the 'Natural Remedies' page.  Her friend might want to print off some of the info there and give it to her........or........give her the link to the website!

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Registered: 04-30-2000
Mon, 07-01-2013 - 6:13pm

You know, I don't think she should be continually blaming her behavior on menopause. Most people could come up with some 'reason' for their behavior. Is their anyone who especially gets along well with her? If someone could take her aside and talk to her privately, that there are things that might help, such as supplements....  Check out this page.. Maybe even print out the list of supplements and share it with her. Not everyone can or should take hrt...

If this happens regularly, then she needs to deal with it, not everyone else at work.