New to boards and need to vent re: mood swings, etc

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Registered: 07-24-2005
New to boards and need to vent re: mood swings, etc
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Mon, 09-03-2012 - 8:54am

Hello ladies!  I'm 51 and period free for 2 years now.  It went quietly thank goodness, for that I am grateful, however, my mind is NEVER quiet and my heart always feels in turmoil.  Granted, my life isn't easy, but I'm lucky compared to alot of people.

The slightest thing can set me into a tailspin of sadness or anger.  It seems to comes in waves, I'll have a week or two where I feel peaceful and happy with my life, then the "dark cloud" decends and I'm in a funk for a week or more for no real reason.

I have a good man in my life, but he can look at me wrong and it sets me off thinking I've made the wrong decision; "what's he doing, can I trust him, does he really love me????" all these irrational thoughts enter my mind and I can't let go!  I worry about EVERYTHING!!  I have a 20 yr old son that lives with his father an hour away who has some issues (both of them) and I dwell on them for days at a time.  I have a job in the public eye that requires all my mental faculties, and always a positive attitude and sometimes I just can't bring it.

Please don't suggest antidepressants!!  I have been that route and refuse to go back, my sister committed suicide 8yrs ago after being switched from one antid to another.  I also hate the feeling of emotional flatness they give you and have worked so hard to be drug-free.  I take only meds necessary for migraine and some kidney problems, as well as 1 or 2 tramadol for fibro.  I don't drink either.

I guess I just needed to let this out, to see if there are toher ladies who go through this cycle.  I feel like I'm going absolutely crazy and want to feel like I'm not alone on this journey.

Thanks for your time, and I hope I make some new friends here!

Wen

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Registered: 07-24-2005
Re: New to boards and need to vent re: mood swings, etc
Sun, 09-09-2012 - 9:24am

Thanks so much for the reply.  It's been a "good week" despite work stress but you never know when something will set it off do you? haha!  I have made an appt with a chiropractor to try to deal with chronic migraine and I'm hoping that will help some.  I take an energy multi vitamin and a mega D.  Would a B-complex be the same as B 8?  I give my so B complex but it tended to upset my tummy so I stopped.  btw, probiotics RULE!!  I found my former cast iron gut turned a mess once I started meno and probiotics were a lifesaver for me!  I'm all about natural remedies so I will check it out!  Thanks so much!

Yours in hot flash sisterhood!

 

Wen

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Registered: 04-30-2000

No, a B complex is not the same as the B8.. I am not really sure that it is technically a B vitamin at all... lol Did I say you can get Inositol at GNC? I know klrambo has gotten it other places as well.

Have you ever tried magnesium for your migraines? 250 mg is what they say 'works'. I don't have migraines but sinus and I tried it for that and it worked. Also klrambo does/has suffered with migraines and when she started taking a supplement that had it found she suffered less. It is said, that you can take it with migraine meds, at the sign of one, and repeat whenever... (remember I am not a medical person...) Since you can watch and get a bottle for around $3, pretty cheap to try!

 

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Registered: 04-18-2003

Keep in mind for natural remedies, like their pharmaceutical counterparts, it will take one to eight weeks for the results to appear. Also, there might be dietary restrictions. Some you should take with a meal, some after, some don't consume with a certain food, that sort of thing. The natural remedies I take are a high stress multi-vitamin, Omega 3-6-9 (bottle says 1-3 a day. According to my husband I should take it 3x a day, LOL!), Calcium/Magnesium (1-3 times a day, according to my uterus and digestive system 3x is best), 1-2 tablespoons of flaxseed oil, and 1-2 tablespoons of ground flaxseed (my 10 year old son has the freedom to say "Mom, I think you need to have a 4 tablespoon flax day). That's the supplements. I also take 1/2 cup of plain, organic, Greek style yogurt, usually mixed with fruit or granola, and/or about an ounce of cheese for dairy. I try to pick fruits and vegetables that are high in iron and calcium. I find that minimizing the amount of red meat I eat also makes a difference, sticking to the white meats or non-animal based sources of protein.

I'm also on a very low dose of Celexa. It helps with night time anxiety and morning depression. I usually take it just before I go to bed. When I was 40 I went on a standard dose of Paxil for  6 months. When I was 42, the symptoms returned but within three weeks it became clear resuming Paxil was a very bad idea. My doctor did some research of  the perimenopausal anti-depressants and we decided the natural methods plus Celexa would be a good combination.  I thought I'd mention that in this post because there are some other threads I've mentioned being on Celexa.

Gail