New here, looking for help

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Registered: 04-15-1998
New here, looking for help
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Mon, 01-28-2013 - 7:23am

Hi, I am a 41 year old mom of 3 girls. I have been thinking for the past year or so that I am in perimenopause, but I just am not sure what is going on. About 2 years ago, I had my IUD removed (NOT to get pregnant, but to feel better in tune with my body.) Since then, I have gone back to tracking my cycles,  somewhat. I have been mostly just tracking cervical mucus. I have had several cycles with no sign of fertile mucus, and cycle lengths varying from 26 days to 32 days. (26 was closer to my pre-IUD days.) 

The last month has been even more crazy. I went about 30 days with no sign of fertile mucus. When I went to look at the dates of my cycle, I saw that I was already 2 days "late." (on day 32 of cycle.) After 2 more days, I took a preg test to be sure (even though I am nearly positive that I wasn't pregnant) and it was negative. I decided at this poinnt that I better go back to doing basal temps as well. So I started temps again about a week ago, and they have all been in the 97.1-97.4 range (previously, I always ran those temps pre-ovulation, andd temps post-o were over 98.) I also started with fertile-type mucus about a week ago. So this was making me think that I just had a long cycle. Now, I am noticing breast tenderness, and had some indigestion this morning that felt a bit like nausea.  Does this sound ike perimenopause or do I need to be worried and/or take another preg test??
Thanks~

Karen 

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Registered: 04-30-2000
Mon, 01-28-2013 - 11:01pm

Hi Karen and welcome to the board. At 41 it is possible that you are in perimenopause. For many of us the first thing we notice is the differences in our periods. In peri than can be longer,shorter, lighter, heavier, closer together or farther apart or any combination of these and can vary from month to month. 

I will be honest, it has been many years since I dealt with basal temps and mucus so I can't help there. I don't think that at this point, I would do another pregnancy test... You seem to think that there would be little chance that you might be pregnant.

If you go to the Menopause Oasis, http://cl-klrambo-ivil.tripod.com/menopauseoasis/ You will find a list of almost 60 symptoms that we know of. You may be surprised to find you have more than you think.

Come back anytime, and remember.... you are NOT alone!!!

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Registered: 04-15-1998
Mon, 02-04-2013 - 6:14am

Thanks for your reply! Update: stil no period. This cycle has been 46 days long, the previous cycle was 26 days, but since Sept I have had 2 that were only 15 days. I took another pregnancy test today (for piece of mind, since temps are still low) and it's still negative. I am thinking that this must be perimenopause. About how long might I be looking at crazy cycle lengths? I asked my mom when she went through menopause, and she thought she was 52. Am I looking at 10 years still?

 

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Registered: 04-30-2000
Sun, 02-10-2013 - 2:32pm

Perimenopause, the time before meno can last up to 10 to 15 years..... Not what you wanted to hear huh?  Now, having said that, just because your mom went through meno at 52 though might give you an 'idea' of what you have to look forward to might not be what you do. My journey was NOT my mothers. And if yours is not hers, you might be one of the lucky ones who might just 'stop' one day.

Menopause is a point in time, when you have bled your last. You must go 12 months without a period to be post menopause. Not even one drop of blood. It is suggested that you use protection for the first 2 years unless you would not mind being pregnant to be safe. On the 12 months, a few years ago we had one woman who went 11 1/2 months without anything and then had a period and had to start her count all over. She was NOT happy!

Post anytime! And remember, you are NOT alone!!!

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