Newbie/weird periods.......

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Newbie/weird periods.......
Sun, 09-09-2012 - 3:14pm



I started my period, I think around my 2nd year of high school. I have always been one of the lucky ones that had a 2 day period and never much as far as cramps, so never much to complain about. As I got older, My periods got even lighter to where my first day I wore a panty line, the next day a pad then the last day a panty liner then DONE!

Now that I am in peri-meno, My period is all wacked! I have kept a running list for the past 2 years and my period has been all over the place. Sometimes I start on the 1st, then next month will be the 15th  then the next might be the 25th. My doc said, Yep...peri-meno. You should go on HRT's, NO WAY! I have so much breast cancer in my family adn I , myself have had two breast cancer scares, so not for me!


Ok so the last two months I have had two periods that started and ended in the same month...OMG WHY??????? The questions is, well this will get a bit graphic, but I have no friends to talk to about this, so here goes........ MY regular period is just like I explained above, the 2nd one last month, came on and I knew it was coming , as my ankles really hurt right before and I usually cry like a baby the week before.   What is weird about my 2nd period is, I hardly bleed at all, can almost wear nothing but a liner and what blood there is, is brown in color, not your regular red blood. Not prego, NO WAY.

Talked to my mom who has no clue about meno, she said she cannot believe it is taking so long for me to get over this, it usually only last a few week (huh...where have you been living mom in a cave?), but she said it sounds like it may be time that I am going to be stopping my periods? I don't know what to think?

My OBYGN's, all of them in my town STINK! They do not listen, they just want to throw HRT's at me and they have no compasion what so ever, so I am hoping to find some answers here and to also make some friends who are going through the same kinds of things!

I have hair growing where it shouldn't, I have hot flashes and night sweats, aches and pains, weird periods, vaginal dryness to where my poor hubby aint getting any sex, because even with KY, sex is still VERY painful for me!


So what do you all think is up with this two periods a month? I know with meno they say your periods become all wacked out, but what and when do you know you are close to stopping them all together? I imagine ever woman is different, but why are my 2nd periods brown and not red liek a regular period?

Thanks for reading and listening

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-04-2007
Wed, 09-26-2012 - 4:48pm

Hi Nell

My periods have been all over the calender! I am 52 and the beginning of this year haas been a reak noticeable change in my periods. I have been on my period now since August 23. It is now Sept. 26! I had one day and 1/2 day where I stopped. Relief! I go from heavy to light flow also. Have to where pads to just be careful, because I have been to the point of changing every 20 minutes at one point. That lasted only a few hours and then the flow slowed down. I have been taking the B-complex and just trying my best to get an array of healthy foods. My back(lower) gets pretty sore too. I have been putting ice on that for about 20 minutes at a time and taking advil. That really helps big time. So......I am in it for the haul I guess. I don't really want to take HRT. My hot flashes have been super minimal also. I do get warmer faster though-lol. As far as hair, hahah. Yeah, I have a few stragglers on the chin. I just pluck those when needed. I seem to remember some browish/reddish color some months back. I wasn't to concerned with it. I do have a lot of clotting attached to the tampax at times. I here that is normal shedding of the lining. Hang in there friend and eat healthy and smile!!!!!!!!!!  This to shall pass!!!!!!




Avatar for coldfingers
Community Leader
Registered: 04-30-2000
Sat, 09-15-2012 - 7:07pm

Nell, another thought, you could try to find a gyn through the North American Menopause Society. They have a dr finder for drs who are "menopause practioners"...  (You can find a link to the NAMS and other sites on the front page of the Oasis too...)

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Registered: 01-03-2001
Sat, 09-15-2012 - 5:43pm

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Avatar for klrambo
Community Leader
Registered: 10-19-2000
Fri, 09-14-2012 - 11:27pm

It certainly does sound as if you are entering the 'wonderful whacky' world of peri-menopause.  The periods you discribed sound pretty "normal" to me for this time of life.  But we do always ask our gals to be sure to check *any* unusual bleeding with their doctor, just to be safe. If you are having difficulty finding a good GYN near you, you might call a nearby hospital and ask for a referral - just be sure to tell them that you are looking for one who had a reasonable understanding of peri-menopause.

Peri-menopause is that time of life when our body is winding down its production of the female sex hormones. (We liken it to puberty in reverse!) It can last for up to 15 years and often the symptoms we have to deal with are multiple and can vary widely. It can begin as early as the mid-30s. The average age for a woman to reach "menopause" is 51. But remember that menopause is merely a point in time - that time at which you have gone one full year without any menstrual bleeding. Beyond that time you are post-menopausal.

Please do visit our Menopause Oasis.  I have done my darndest to put as much information there as I can and yet keep it from sounding as we have all the answers!!  I am certainly not a medical professional, but I have been (along with coldfingers) a community leader on this board for many  years, and I have heard darned near anything that can be said about this time of life!!!!  LOL   It is the tips we have garnered while researching to find answers to questions asked here that makes up the tips that are included at our Oasis.

Please know that you are welcome here anytime ~ to ask questions, to vent (it really does help!), to share experiences, or to just hang out with other women who understand and care....

There are NO dumb questions when it comes to Menopause

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Avatar for coldfingers
Community Leader
Registered: 04-30-2000
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 4:41pm

Hi Nell, and welcome to the board. Indeed, the "fun"  part of peri is the weird, irregular periods.... You said the obgyns stink. When did you last see one? When was your last pap? I will suggest you find a gyn who mostly deals with peri/meno. obgyn's tend to be busy with babies and not people in our time of life...  How far would you have to drive to find a gyn? It might be possible to find a family dr who under most situations would be good as well.

I don't think I would be overly concerned about the 2 "periods'' in a month. It really sounds more like your body is cleaning itself out. (I am not a medical person.) It is also possible a D & C would remedy that. But this gets back to finding a good gyn!!!

Did you mom not go through meno? Did she have a hysterectomy before then? Her responses sound more like a young woman's.

Check out the Menopause Oasis.

Post anytime! And remember you are NOT alone!!!

Community Leader
Registered: 04-18-2003
Mon, 09-10-2012 - 11:56am

The second doesn't sound normal to me. WebMD is a very reputable site. Print this off, as well as having some books about perimenopause with the relevant passages bookmarked and do the rounds of OB/GYNs. It's amazing how willing an OB/GYN is to listen if they know you've done your research and can do a combination of "These book plus these printoffs all clearly indicate.........." As for breast cancer and HRT, when my aunt received the phone call when she would be undergoing her masectomy, she flushed almost a months' worth of HRT down the toilet. Her daughters and her niece are all refusing HRT to treat our Perimenopause symtoms.