Unhappy but scared to make a change

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Registered: 09-08-2005
Unhappy but scared to make a change
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Wed, 10-31-2012 - 11:02am

I'm unhappy with my job big time although the work is pretty stress-free, I'm just not happy. I get paid only $12 bucks an hour (I can't support myself on my own with that especially with the rising costs of living), haven't received a raise in 3 years and bosses took away my vacation :( and I feel so resentful about that too. Basically there are no incentives other than simply just having a job and receiving a paycheck. No matter how much I try to be grateful though and focus on the positives, I can't shake off or ignore the fact that I'm just not happy here anymore and I hate waking up early for this job. I just have nothing to look forward to here, there is no financial growth whatsoever. It depresses me that I don't seem to have the courage to leave. I stay because I'm scared the next job might be worse or might not fit my complex personality style (Im kinda shy and like being to myself, not the most "team-oriented"), I'm scared because I don't have hardly any money in my savings to back me up just in case the next job doesn't work out. What if the next job lays me off in a matter of months working there? Can I file unemployment to my previous employer, where I was at for 5 yrs even though I quit? Its like Im almost waiting for these people to lay me off so I can get unemployment and look for a better opportunity, one that I know fits my personality, pays better and offers vacation benefits but I think they'd rather have me here working then have to pay towards someone whos not here. Any comments would be appreciated. Thanks.

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Registered: 01-02-2008
Mon, 12-03-2012 - 10:47am

wow those are some pretty scary statistics.. I am alone and 58 and unable to find work and I would love to get my own apt as I live with family and it is very difficult right now.. No one wants to rent an apt. to someone without a job and I try .. I think about leaving the planet but I cant do it and I do understand why people do it.. Life gets so unbearable at times.. I am even alone with no SO and its so depressing..

I cant believe that life has gotten this hard but I guess not being a victim is the first step and hoping and praying things will work out.. I have no good answers as I struggle everyday myself..

take care

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Registered: 09-12-2011
Thu, 11-08-2012 - 1:52pm

at least you see the truth and are handling it

its tough its scary 

the unknown can rock a house in order off the foundation

thats why the suicide rate is what it is

Between 2008 and 2009, the suicide rate in the United States rose by 2.4%, with a reported 36,909 suicide deaths, according to a report by the CDC. In 2008, 13.4% of individuals who committed suicide experienced job and financial problems, a report by the CDC revealed in August 2011. Furthermore, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, an emergency crisis hotline, revealed that the volume of calls they received between 2010 and 2011 increased by 14%.

and by now it surely has doubled

get my point?

all fronts are screwed up


options?????

be strong and survive!

or lay down lol


good luck

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-12-2011
Thu, 11-08-2012 - 1:52pm

at least you see the truth and are handling it

its tough its scary 

the unknown can rock a house in order off the foundation

thats why the suicide rate is what it is

Between 2008 and 2009, the suicide rate in the United States rose by 2.4%, with a reported 36,909 suicide deaths, according to a report by the CDC. In 2008, 13.4% of individuals who committed suicide experienced job and financial problems, a report by the CDC revealed in August 2011. Furthermore, the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, an emergency crisis hotline, revealed that the volume of calls they received between 2010 and 2011 increased by 14%.

and by now it surely has doubled

get my point?

all fronts are screwed up


options?????

be strong and survive!

or lay down lol


good luck

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-08-2005
Wed, 10-31-2012 - 2:32pm

Thanks Owaitress for responding to me :) Its very true what you say. Its so sad how due to the st*pid economy people are basically having to stay where they are miserable and having to settle for crap when they are probably capable of better. Sometimes I almost want to refuse to live that way, just take a leap of faith, stop being scared but like you, I NEED my job too :( How unfortunate it is to be so dependent on something. If only I had at least 10-12 months worth of bills saved up in my savings, I would definitely feel more at ease to move forward in my life but nope, not the case. My entire income pretty much goes to bills and food because I don't even go shopping for clothe or anything! I wake up miserable every morning (when I have to work) and it feels almost impossible to change my attitude. You're right though, it is a safer bet to not quit yet :-/ maybe wait until after the elections. Your suggestion is a good one but tough because I work the typical Mon-Fri 9-5pm job so there will most likely be a schedule conflict with any other company I apply to. I feel like my only hope will be to find a better paying job and quitting this one. I can't imagine being here another few years, that would suck.

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Registered: 04-11-2012
Wed, 10-31-2012 - 12:45pm

Oh do I hear you. I'm too afraid to make a change right now. I want to see what happens after the election. I've heard horrible reports of unemployment possibly rising to 11% and I while I don't like my job, I need it. I do know that if you leave your job and get another then get fired or laid off a few months down the road, you cannot file unemployment for the company you worked for previously if you quit. I personally discussed that topic with someone from Manpower so your concern is valid.

Can you try getting something part time to see if it fits you? That is what I am trying to do at the moment.