Does AA really work?

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Registered: 03-05-2013
Does AA really work?
Mon, 03-25-2013 - 11:56am

Does AA really work? How?

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Registered: 09-14-1997
Thu, 03-28-2013 - 4:08pm

Oh my gosh, I finally got logged in to answer this!! I have tried 3 times!!!

The short answer to your question: Does AA work? is Yes....but not for everyone. Foot in Mouth

The short answer to your other question: How? is 'No clue' Tongue Out

Now for the longer answers. Yes, AA works. I started going to AA on November 10, 1989. I have not had a drink since. My husband was 23 when he started AA in (or around, he can't remember exactly) June 28 1987. He has not had a drink since. Both of us had decided that we needed to stop drinking because it was interfering in our lives (we didn't know each other at the time.) I hadn't had a DWI or lost a job, I still had a car, insurance, and a valid driver's license (a rarity for a newcomer in AA.) I was, however, drinking too much and suicidal. I started going to AA as often as possible- while working a full and two parttime jobs. I went to 88 meetings in 90 days (the catch phrase is 90 in 90.) I absolutely HATED meetings. I couldn't stand being around so many people (10 was too many.) Since most meetings were in church basements, I would stand in the kitchen, listening the people speaking and pace, and pace, and pace. But I did listen. 

My husband came into the progam just before he was sentenced to prison. Then he continued in prison. When he got out, part of his parole was mandatory counseling, but he added AA as well. He didn't open his  mouth at meetings for about 3 years except to say, "My name is ____, I am an alcoholic and I live one day at a time." 
Now we have each been sober over 2 decades, and we still go to meetings. We aren't going to drink today, but meetings keep us on an even keel.

AA works because the people who go to meetings have experienced what I have. They know about cravings and learning to deal with feelings and struggling. AA works because the steps teach me that I am not the end all and be all of the universe; and that I have to take responsibility for my actions. AA works because we help each other, and, in turn, are helped by each other.

Seriously, trying it out costs nothing than whatever money you wish to donate at the meeting.  

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Registered: 03-05-2013
Sun, 03-31-2013 - 9:16am

Thank you