Does teen smoking lead to other things?

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-02-2008
Does teen smoking lead to other things?
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Mon, 02-25-2013 - 8:49am

My oldest daughter started smoking with her friends when she was 16 years old. It has now come to my attention she's been engaging in underage drinking. I am completely stunned by this behavior as she was not brought up this way. Should I have known that her smoking would lead to this kind of behavior? She is about to turn 18 years old so I really don't know how to discipline her for this. We've taken away the use of our car but not sure what else to do to get this stopped before it turns to something worse.

Community Leader
Registered: 09-14-1997
Tue, 02-26-2013 - 9:14pm

Kids who use substances are often drawn to more and more things. I started smoking at 16, drinking at 18 (it was legal for me then) but never moved on to more. My husband started smoking at 15, drinking at 16 and drugging at 17. No, there is no reason for you to have known. 

As for what to do now? Is alcohol legal at her age where you are? That is a biggie. How often does she drink? Does she get drunk? Does she live in your house? IF she does live in your house, you can make any rules you want. One might be to go to a therapist to discuss WHY ...

I hope someone better than me comes along to help !!

Welcome!

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-16-2013
Mon, 03-04-2013 - 8:13am

I think any child who is going to attempt risky behavior could get involved with anything.Be very proactive and get more involved in her life. Talk to her about drugs and alcohol without preaching or screaming. Don't beg, plead, or threaten.

Personally I think you are doing the right thing taking away the car keys but I would go a few steps further and take away her cell phone and any other privileges you are paying for. You can calmly explain that since she wants to act like an adult and engage in adult behavior (drinking) then she is welcome to start behaving like one. And that would mean getting a job and paying her own way including car insurance, cell phone plan, clothing, make up, spending money to hang out with the girls, etc. Also remind her she needs to set aside money for a lawyer and fines should she get caught drinking underage or be involved in some sort of accident with alcohol involved. Stick to your guns and don't enable her in any way.

Good luck

Community Leader
Registered: 09-14-1997
Tue, 03-05-2013 - 6:16pm

Good suggestions!