I am over it
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|Tue, 01-01-2013 - 10:06pm|
I have posted on here before, but it has been a few years. I am still with my DH, who is a functioning alcoholic. He switched from beer to vodka a few years ago. He can down a bottle by himself in 2 days (or less, depending on his mood). We have a 16yr old son, and 12yr old daughter. Last year, the fighting between our dh and our son got out of hand, It was starting to get violent...so in Jan 2012, I moved out with the kids. Our son still stayed at dh's house on the weekends, and they seemed to get along well for a few days at a time. I still spoke to dh everyday, and saw him almost everyday (we shared a vehicle, mine!).
Fast forward to June 2012, due to circumstances beyond my control, we moved back in with dh. I wish I never came back. I work at the local health club, and I have made a lot of new friendships there. We all get together for drinks at someones house every friday. I invited my dh a few times when I first started going...but he showed his ass everytime. He drinks EVERY day...no exceptions! When I get home from work, (around 5:30, he is in the bed, wtching TV with a drink in his hand. Mind you, his drinks are about 3/4 alcohol. on his days off, that is what he does all day, starting around 11a
I spend a lot of time away from home, so I don't have to be around him, he is screaming at me right now. what an ass.. I guess I would like advice. I went to a few alanon meetings, and I know I can't change him. But I now have a life that I really enjoy, with people that love me and respect me.
Up until about 2yrs ago, i didn't have a lot of friends, and dh was always going out (an usually lying about it). I never once accused him or asked him if he was cheating on me, because I know in my heart he won't. I am the same way. As much as I don't want to be with him, we are still married. But he asks me every night if I am cheating on him, and I tell him no. And then he asks again, and again, then accuses me of lying...it is a vicious circle.
Did I mention I have found 2 crack pipes in our apartment we just moved into in November. OMG...I am at my wit's end...