I'll try to make this short.
Hi Tootie. I'm really sorry to hear about your husband, my heart goes out to you. I grew up in a home where alcohol was a problem and while I never really understood it, I do believe the need for it outweighed everything else until there was a lucid moment when there was the 'I want my family' realization. But that was few and far between. I think you can't force people to change and they have to want the help in order to make it work and that's got to be so hard waiting for someone to come to that knowledge and watching them self-destruct in the meantime. He sounds like a nice man who is addicted and needs help. I hope realizing what he no longer has makes a difference soon but I think going to alanon is a great idea for you in the meantime. You are a strong person! I am Sherilee, I hope to see you post again soon and I'll be thinking of you.
Your husband has a very serious, life-threatening, and progressive disease.
I am so sorry you are having to go thru this.
Thanks to all of you for the good advice and suggestions.
I have never been married to an alcoholic so don't have the years invested that you do.
Could you say more about how your husband had short term memory loss? My husband constantly complains that I have not told him things that I have definitely told him. He is 60 but I suspect he has been drinking heavily for 20 years.
My situation is a little bit different because I am