Alcoholic Friend in Florida

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Registered: 02-24-2011
Alcoholic Friend in Florida
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Wed, 03-07-2012 - 12:48pm

So, I know this old boyfriend in Florida. We have always kept in touch over the years. However, he confessed he is an alcoholic. Says he lost his drivers license last year for a DUI and prefers not to have a license, anyway, since he's always drinking. He said he drinks from 7am in the morning until he goes to sleep at night.

Needless to say, i don't have any intensions of rekindling a romance. Just thought i'd mention it here though... I found it sad to here when he told me about it.

In other news, I'm still pampering myself. Healing from my unengagement. Some days are better than others. I've gone thru a bunch of different emotions... from lonelyness to anger to liberated and back to sadness. I know I am healing though. And bottom line is that i feel good about my convictions and standards. I know I deserve a healthy relationship. Now i just need to the patience to find the right one.

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Wed, 03-07-2012 - 7:01pm
Your emotions sound very normal to me. It is so sad to hear that someone we were once close to has not only admitted he is an alcoholic, but is choosing not to do anything about it. The disease has a strangle-hold on him... Healing you are, and YES - you do deserve a healthy relationship! Life is too short for anything else...
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Thu, 03-08-2012 - 5:25pm
yes. he flat out said. "i will never change and i don't want to."

but at least he was honest and I was honest too.
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Registered: 04-07-2002
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 5:06pm

IT is sad to hear these things when you are already sad over another addict.

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Registered: 06-30-2002
Fri, 03-09-2012 - 7:26pm

I'm so glad you're on the right track to healing, and yes, there will be pain involved and that's normal.


 


"OMG, I got engaged, the world will never be the same!...."


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Registered: 04-07-2003
Sat, 03-10-2012 - 8:29am
I just love reading your posts, Deb. You help me so much and it lightens my heart to see how far you have come in your journey.
XOXO
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Sat, 03-10-2012 - 7:10pm
I read "Beyond Codependency" about 7 years ago. Yes, it was an eye openner. My life has been improving ever since. I've had a lot of near misses along the way though...

I'm feeling I do need some me time and girl time right now. It's not easy though cuz I feel a deep sense of loss right now. And I'm fighting the urge to do things I'm familiar with but deep down I know isn't healthy. (like a rebound relationship). For now, it seems I'm filling my emptiness with new clothes. But in moderation, it's good to pamper myself.

Another positive is my job. I've been getting great reviews and compliments. I feel great about the direction it is going. I gave grown a lot and I'll work on not focusing on the negatives. And not focus on men. (lol)

Thanks for all the kind, wise words.

Lil Pepper
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Registered: 06-30-2002
Sat, 03-10-2012 - 9:52pm

Thank you so much Leslie! Believe me, I've learned quite a bit from you as well, dear friend!

Deb


 


"OMG, I got engaged, the world will never be the same!...."


&nbs

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Registered: 06-30-2002
Sat, 03-10-2012 - 10:02pm

You know, about a week or two after my split with my alcoholic, I bought myself 2 rather expensive curling irons (I've been a hairdresser for 28 years) and I'm still using them every day on the jog!


 


"OMG, I got engaged, the world will never be the same!...."


&nbs