Confused: Live in BF confessed

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Registered: 02-24-2011
Confused: Live in BF confessed
Thu, 02-24-2011 - 11:26am


I'm new here and confused. My live-in boyfriend of a year just confessed that he's taking Suboxone. He has quite a history with drug addiction... of which he told me was all in the past. We were friends for about 5 months before we started dating. He confessed recently that he was using heroine around that time and didn't want to get in a relationship. Then a friend of his helped him get on to Suboxone (an opiate detox drug). After a couple months, he says he felt normal enough to be in a relationship and then he ask me out. We've been dating since that time, Sept of 2009.

The relationship progessed nicely for the first few months. After some time, he met my kids and started spending more and more time with us all .... almost like a family. Shortly after that he expressed wanting a future with me and my kids (marriage etc). He has kids from a previous relationship too. And we all were hanging out together. Things seems so wonderful during this time.


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Registered: 03-21-2007
Thu, 02-24-2011 - 1:39pm

I don't know anything about that drug, sorry.

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Registered: 09-14-1997
Fri, 02-25-2011 - 7:50am

Hi LilPepper

I am Beth, one of the cls here.

Suboxone is most definitely a way for people to get off herion. It is also a narcotic and should only be taken AS PRESCRIBED BY A PHYSICIAN. Is your BF getting his from a pharmacy? Is he taking doses as recommended. I doubt it, people don't hide something they are taking as prescribed.

I suggest you re-read Melody Beattie's book. Lies are absolutely NO way to start a relationship. You have kids. Please find someone they can love and admire. They, and you, deserve it.