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|Mon, 10-28-2013 - 10:46am|
Hi! I am going to try to make this as short and concise as possible. First a little background information: my dh is a dry drunk who got sober August 2, 2011 and went to one meeting after returning from rehab. (A very emotional topic for me...) I was going to Al-Anon meetings 3 to 4 times a week and it did so much for me! Since my dh didn't agree with 12 step programs and thought they were a crock, I never told him, "I went to a meeting today or I am going tonight" I just went to meetings and often brought our two children with me to the meetings that were "kid friendly." He let it be known that me going to meetings was "like pouring salt on an open wound", and he would love nothing more than to go by a bottle of Capt. Morgan. NEVER once did I bring home pamphlets, get on a soapbox, preach, etc. when I came home from meetings because I knew where he stood in his beliefs. Slowly, but surely, I stopped going to meetings.
He told me, very recently, he would like to move down south when our oldest child is finished with the school year. We were both born and raised in the state where we currently live as our family is here as well. He hates our state, hates the cold weather and I feel the older he gets, the more he complains come fall/winter time. He previously lived in Florida (where he wants to move) for a number of years and loves the warm weather. He told me he hates his life and basically going to move with or without us. I am a "homebody" who loves to travel!!!, but my Dad has Alzheimers's and my Mom is his sole caretaker. I help out when she needs to get away for a night or go run errands, etc. I love my parents dearly and feel it is the least I can do for all they did for me and my siblings growing up. My siblings also help our Mom out as well, so we all pitch in where we can. There is much more to this story, but don't want to make this longer than necessary. Our chidren are forunate to have their grandparents' (on both sides), aunts, uncles, cousins, etc.
I don't want to lose my husband or have our family split up. Our children would be devastated as would I. Just writing this is bringing up so much sadness and anger. Ugh! Any feedback/advice would be greatly appreciated! Thankyou so much!!!!!