Feel guilty

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-30-2000
Feel guilty
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Thu, 01-10-2013 - 1:26pm

   Have any of you called the drinker an alcoholic to their face...I lost a sis and brother from this and my other brother is a binge drinker and I told him he was an alcoholic...now I feel bad even though he has a drinking issue but I couldn't hold it back any longer...please reply...

Community Leader
Registered: 09-14-1997
In reply to: amyielu
Thu, 01-10-2013 - 6:57pm

Plenty of people told me I was an alcoholic. I got angry with them and got resentments. Eventually I believed them and got sober. You don't have to lie to an alcoholic. 

Don't feel guilty for telling the truth.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-30-2000
In reply to: amyielu
Fri, 01-11-2013 - 9:00am

Thank you for your reply...I know that alcoholism is a disease and I think having known people who I love so much go threw it knowing the pain they are in makes me upset to throw out labels..but maybe it's my own defensive guard ..Your kindness is appreciated  : ) 

Community Leader
Registered: 09-14-1997
Sat, 01-12-2013 - 10:14am

Yes, alcoholism is a disease...and you have every right to express your concerns to someone you love about their drinking.