feeling like the little red hen

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Registered: 07-05-2011
feeling like the little red hen
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Sun, 07-10-2011 - 10:01am

Okay, so my significant other is getting sober, it has been nearly a month, and he is working overtime at work to keep himself busy enough to try to make it stick, though every moment he is NOT working, he is thinking about drinking.

Community Leader
Registered: 10-08-2002
Mon, 07-11-2011 - 10:12am
I am so sorry you are catching the brunt of your alcoholic's sobering up ways. I know that for me, I had to find SOMETHING to take the place of alcohol in my life. I had to or I would drink again. An alcoholic is restless, irritable, and discontent until we can again feel that sense of ease and comfort of just a few drinks. OR we have to find something of SUBSTANCE to take the place of alcohol. For me, that something of substance was AA and the 12 steps to teach me how to deal with me. You can do nothing to help your alcoholic in that particular instance, but you CAN help yourself. If you can find a hour here and there to attend some Al-Anon meetings, you will find the love and support that you need to help you in your life to find a personal way to be happy, joyous and free. This group will not tell you to stay or to leave your husband. What they will do is help you learn what YOU truly feel and want and give you tools to communicate your needs to the people important to you in your life. It cant hurt and just might help. You can find them in your local phone book. Please try at least 6 meetings before deciding if they are or are not for you. Remember, that each meeting is different, so if you dont like the first one, try another one till you do find something you like. Please keep posting and let us know how YOU are doing. Your husband will do what he does, and YOU are the one reaching out. We truly care and want to hear what you are doing,....God bless...
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