Friend of an alcoholic - part 2

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-21-2003
Friend of an alcoholic - part 2
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 8:45am

First of all I'd like to thank all of you for your kind words and help. It really made me see that it wasn't anything I could do unless she wants to. I did decide not to engage with her if I knew she was going to be drinking. She called me a couple of times last week to see if I'd like to come over to her house but before I could even respond she said "if you are going to lecture me about drinking, you better not come". So that was that and I didn't see her. She is currently reading a book called "Lit" something about a heavy drinker. She mentioned to me that she was no where as bad as this woman was.

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Registered: 09-14-1997
Mon, 02-28-2011 - 6:31pm

I am glad you are taking care of yourself! I hope your friend learns soon that alcohol can take you where you don't want to go.

As for cutting down...some people can. There used to be a poster here who was able to moderate using some of the tools of a program called Moderation Management. For those people who overuse alcohol and are not like me, that program seems to help. Personally, once I took one drink, I was pretty sure I wasn't going to stop. Okay, I often THOUGHT I could stop, but in reality, one was never, ever going to be enough for me.

Your friend sounds like she isn't ready to stop, and like she is either using alcohol to avoid things like her finances. She might be so often under the influence that she isn't remembering her bills. I think she might be a lot like I was.

Keep us posted!