His pain and My pain! Please Help

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Registered: 11-30-2009
His pain and My pain! Please Help
Tue, 03-01-2011 - 8:45pm

I am dating a guy who recently confessed to me that he has a problem with Oxycodone.

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Registered: 10-08-2002
Wed, 03-02-2011 - 2:18pm
It is hard to watch a loved one suffer. I went thru watching my cousin withdraw from heroin.. That was a big mistake....for him and for me. Today I need to tell anyone that asks that the key to successful detox from any alcohol or drug is thru medical help and, sometimes, slow withdrawals supervised by a knowledgeable medical personnel. Please encourage him to do this...the pain of cold turkey withdrawal can quickly send us back to the drug because there is no pain in that course. Please seek help thru professionals...both of you will need to have some mental health issues taken care of...like why he chose addiction to a drug rather than reality ...for you to find out why you chose someone that felt the need to use...I am sure you know now that when he puts you on that emotional rollercoaster, its time to find out why you stay on it. Please let us know how you are doing thru all of this. We are a great support board as you deal with this painful situation. God bless..
Alcohol, Addictions & Recovery. It's a long way down, but only 12 steps UP
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2003
Wed, 03-02-2011 - 7:59pm

I am in total agreement with Brenda - you both need to seek help.

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-30-2009
Thu, 03-03-2011 - 2:11pm

I know why I stay with him. It's because I know who the type of man that he is.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-03-2009
Fri, 03-04-2011 - 7:56am

...please keep in mind that "we" (addicts/drunks) keep secrets because it "benefits" our substance abuse...I'm not saying that he's using...I'm just saying that secrecy and lies go hand in hand...and, a huge red flag to me...please don't transplant your ideas onto his actions...he may be doing things (being secretive) for entirely different reasons than you would be...and, he knows what to say (probably)...

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Registered: 02-24-2011
Fri, 03-04-2011 - 11:48am
I feel like I can relate. My BF recently confessed to me about his addiction. He had a problem with heroin and other opiates ... For the past two years, he gas been taking suboxen to curb his cravings and deal with withdrawal symptoms. I encouraged my BF to seek medical help too. So far he's been trying to manage on his own.

For myself, I have started going to Alanon meetings. I find this group helpful. I have met others who love someone who is an addict. It is very helpful to talk about it. One day at a time.

Lil Pepper