I can't open up

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Registered: 04-07-2002
I can't open up
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Tue, 01-17-2012 - 10:26am

You know, since I found this board, I check it every day more than once.

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Registered: 06-30-2002
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 10:56am

Your H projected his shame onto you and this is very, very common among relationships like this.


 


"OMG, I got engaged, the world will never be the same!...."


&nbs

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Registered: 01-12-2012
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 9:59pm

I'm sure almost everyone here understands that. It's strange but I don't really even feel like I'm opening up when I'm here (even though I am) because I would never say most of this stuff to people I actually know. But it has been incredibly helpful for me to write here because it's helping me to sort out my own thoughts and emotions. I'm on other boards mostly but I use them almost like journals. I throw my racing thoughts out to the universe and inevitably, most come back to me in the form of encouragment and hope.

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-12-2012
Tue, 01-17-2012 - 10:04pm
Get "Codependent no more" by Melody Beattie. I saw that on this board a couple days ago and it's opening my eyes. You don't have insight because your in it and the more you try to figure it out the worse it gets. I'm no expert but I am discovering it's not just that I'm too weak and stupid to figure this out. It's bigger than us but it doesn't have to be.

Good luck
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Registered: 04-07-2003
Wed, 01-18-2012 - 6:57pm

Hi there.