I give up

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-21-2007
I give up
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Mon, 04-18-2011 - 10:18am

Getting angry that my husband is a drunk doesn't help.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2007
Mon, 04-18-2011 - 1:49pm
Yes, it is easier said than done. After all, you've been together for a very long time and moving on to something new is very hard to think about, much less do.

What are you doing to take care of you?

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-21-2007
Mon, 04-18-2011 - 3:50pm

baby steps.

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-07-2007
Mon, 04-18-2011 - 3:54pm
Good for you! Doing something for yourself, without him, is a good thing. It doesn't have to be anything as big as driving 400 miles, but it's nice that you'll be doing something fun. :)

Community Leader
Registered: 09-14-1997
Tue, 04-19-2011 - 3:09pm

Wow, you are making steps.

I can't remember if you have tried AlAnon, but that might be a move also.

We are here for you!

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2003
Wed, 04-20-2011 - 7:29pm
Has someone suggested the book by Melody Beatty entitled "Codependent No More?" It was an eye-opener for me. I realized that growing up in an alcoholic home had made me very sick too - living with an alcoholic tends to do that to us. We are so filled with anger, fear, and resentment. We want to control things and want things to happen our way. The end result is throwing things and misery. I used to throw shoes and books - it was not a pretty sight. I also suggest Al-Anon. Best wishes!