I have suspected for a while......

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-03-2004
I have suspected for a while......
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Mon, 03-07-2011 - 11:41pm

that DH was drinking more than the drink he would have with me on Saturday night.


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Registered: 09-14-1997
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 6:07am

I think your best plan is to ask him. Sit down after the kids are in bed (I know how hard that can be, since there are HUNDREDS of things to do) and say "I love you, and I need you to know that I know you are drinking more than our Saturday night drink" and "What I need to know is how much, and what I can do to help relieve the stress you are obviously feeling."

Don't use the word 'but' (it negates everything nice you tried to say first) and don't accuse him, since you already know. What you decide to do next I guess depends on his answers. I like the fact that you are not jumping all over him right now with your suspicions, since that is counterproductive.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-21-2007
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 12:39pm

I can understand how you feel.

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-03-2004
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 12:54pm
I think the reason that I did not jump allover it is that I am scared of a lot of things, including his answers. I know that waiting a day (or two depending on when we get kids to bed) will help me collect my thoughts etc and be more calm (I hope).

Thank you so much for your thoughts advice - I will let you know how it goes.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 05-03-2004
Tue, 03-08-2011 - 1:07pm
Thanks for your support. I truly do not know how long it has been going on as it was only recently that something clicked that more was being used that 1 or 2 drinks a weeks would account for.

In some ways I feel guilty for even checking up on him. I know it is silly, but I do.
I am scared.


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