Married to a serious alcoholic

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2006
Married to a serious alcoholic
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Sun, 10-23-2011 - 10:47pm

Wow do I need help - before I start, I just want to say that I am very independant, financially secure, college educated, and typically have good boundaries I think.

Community Leader
Registered: 09-14-1997
Mon, 10-24-2011 - 5:55am

His alcoholism is not your problem, it is his. You did not cause it, you cannot control it, and you cannot cure it. Leaving him before he wrecks more than your serenity is self-preservation and taking care of your child.

Community Leader
Registered: 09-14-1997
Wed, 11-09-2011 - 1:45pm

Wondering how things are going?

iVillage Member
Registered: 04-07-2003
Fri, 11-11-2011 - 7:41pm
Please post and let us know how you are doing today. You are in a difficult situation. It's not your fault - he is most llikely a wonderful man - when he is not drinking. It is said that the things alcoholics place before their sobriety will be the very first things that will go, if they decide to pick up a drink. Most likely he put you and your daughter before his sobriety - and sadly, you will be the first to go... He may not make it - it's the nature of the disease. The sooner you move on, the better off you will be. God bless, Leslie
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2007
Sun, 01-08-2012 - 9:01pm

Good move on your part...very difficult..but I think you realize it is now time for YOU...and your daughter....You can still be friends with him....maybe...but it is best to seperate yourself from this marriage.

Missy