New here, so confused....
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|Mon, 08-29-2011 - 3:33pm|
Hello. My name is Shawna and this is my first time here. I'm here because I'm married to a marijuana addict and I'm confused and at my wit's end, and I have no one in real life that I can talk to about it. I'll try to give as much important info as I can w/o totally overwhelming you, lol.
To begin with, I have always been very anti-drug. I have never smoked a puff of anything in my life. Only drink occasionally and started in college. In HS I had 2 boyfriends who quit smoking cigs/chewing tobacco because they knew how I felt about it. (I'm sorry, I don't mean that to sound harsh to those of you who do smoke or whatever.) I met DH in college, but didn't know until after we'd been together almost a year that he was heavy into smoking pot. He promised over and over that he would quit, and has tried, but always goes back to it. He's also a chronic liar. Lies about things that are incredibly stupid to lie about. I married him and had a beautiful little girl with him, knowing that he had this problem. In Oct we will have been together for 9 years.
ok, so fast forward to this week. He came home Tues night (we work opposite shifts), reeking of pot, and I caught him in a lie not only about whether he had smoked or not but also about something else. Refused to talk to him the rest of that night or any other time the rest of the week pretty much until yesterday. Last night we finally talked/fought about it. Turns out he's been smoking pretty much every day for quite awhile and has spent "more than I can even think about" on his habit (no number or estimate, just that comment) while I'm home trying to figure out what expenses we can cut so we can try to save some money, especially since we've been talking about having