New here...Husband quitting soon

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Registered: 04-07-2002
New here...Husband quitting soon
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Sun, 01-08-2012 - 2:25pm

Hello folks.

Community Leader
Registered: 10-08-2002
Sun, 01-08-2012 - 3:36pm
Hi Beth and welcome to the board. I can appreciate what you are going thru. I know that I am the alcoholic in the lives of my family and friends and, since becoming sober, I have learned the huge issues I caused them. While Al-Anon is where you will find the deepest answer to your problem, we can be a big support and help find and get the right support. We have a poster on here named Deb (Purple) who is a black belt Al-Anon that can truly be of benefit to you. By black belt, I dont mean that she is hard or heavy handed, just that she learned her lessons well and is very good at sharing her experience and solution. Keep posting...others will be along to welcome you too. God bless......
Alcohol, Addictions & Recovery. It's a long way down, but only 12 steps UP
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Registered: 06-30-2002
Sun, 01-08-2012 - 4:48pm

Hello Beth and welcome to out board.


 


"OMG, I got engaged, the world will never be the same!...."


&nbs

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Registered: 04-07-2003
Sun, 01-08-2012 - 5:19pm
Hi there and welcome - You came to the right place! I am a recovering alcoholic, grew up in an alcoholic home, and of course, care about other alcoholics - some who are still using/drinking, sadly. Our "Black-belt" Deb is an example of Al-Anon in action, because even though she is no longer with her alcoholic BF, she is still coming here. By helping others, we help ourselves! This board has been a mainstay of my recovery for 10 years - hard to believe it has been around this long! I, like you, use it to enhance my recovery and talk to others who understand. If there is one thing I can say to you that may help (because it worked for me), is to really embrace the idea of "one day at a time." Try very hard to stay in the day. Of course, you will make plans for the future, but for the most part, concentrate on one day at a time. You can handle anything for one day. If we start looking into the future too much ("what if I can't get a job? What if he doesn't get sober? What if, what if what if???") we can become very anxious and full of fear.
Keep coming back here - we would love to get to know you!
Leslie
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Registered: 12-28-2007
Sun, 01-08-2012 - 8:22pm

Beth..slow down...don't worry about your financial security just yet.

Missy