Thinking about ... Powerlessness
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|Mon, 07-25-2011 - 7:55pm|
Here's something that has been bothering me lately - the idea that we are POWERLESS! I don't even know if I can BUY THIS anymore!!! I totally all about the 12-steps. I'm not an alcohol addict, however, I was married to an addict. I realize that I am/was powerless in the sense of - I couldn't CONTROL HIS BEHaVior ... but am I/was I really powerless???
I think we all have the power to choose our own destinies. We have the power to LEAVE if we need to! We have the power to be the BAD GUY! We have the power to say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH. We have the power to END THE MADNESS!!!
I stayed in a very bad marriage because I was raised in a VERY religious home - and no matter what - divorce was NOT ALLOWED. Well - my EX was the one who ended up leaving. Did me the biggest favor of my LIFE!
We need to learn to RESCUE OURSELVES - be our OWN HERO!!! I always tried to get everyone on my SIDE. Because my EX was the one acting crazy. Well, the truth is/was ... that ... I sort of got off easy. He left - and the decision was made for me. I was not COURAGEOUS enough to TAKE CARE of myself and my sanity - and GET OUT! Luckily - I had made some very smart financial moves - and had already begun the financial separation portion. It made our divorce MUCH easier!
I just think we women need to be empowered to LEAVE if need be!!! BE THE BAD GUY!!! I was so afraid of that. And really - I did end up being the BAD GUY - what he made me out to be. The things he told his family. Two years later and his family still talks to ME and not HIM! So ... at least the truth came out.
I don't know - what do you think about the idea that we are POWERLESS? And really, does life ever become UNMANAGEABLE??? It can be EXTREMELY frustrating - but powerless and unmanageable? I don't know about that!