Thoughts

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Thoughts
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Fri, 03-18-2011 - 12:31pm

I mentioned that my husband was asking for my help.

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Registered: 02-24-2011
Fri, 03-18-2011 - 1:09pm
I feel the same when it comes to my boyfriend only wanting help in the form of enabling.

Al-non is not about the alcoholics, in many ways. I feel it is about getting all areas in my life balanced. Meeting my own personal needs for a change. It does get better.

I just got out of my therapist visit. He validated my thoughts. Helped me to sort out the healthy ones from the addiction related craziness. I will see this counselor again next week. He wasn't able to prescribe meds tho(like a low grade antidepressant) bummer. He said I should see my primary care physician though. Maybe I need one for the bad PMS that I've had lately. And I haven't had a physical in years. I really need to do that... for me.

Hugs,
Pep
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Registered: 07-17-2004
Fri, 03-18-2011 - 2:52pm

Merriweathercat -

I think there are ways of 'meeting' online for al-anon.

         
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Registered: 02-24-2011
Fri, 03-18-2011 - 6:13pm
I think we are all in the same boat. I'm thankful to have folks who understand.

Thank you. Hope we all have a great night

Pep
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Registered: 10-08-2002
Fri, 03-18-2011 - 7:24pm
Al-Anon is a group of people that have lost control of their lives..in much the same way as the alcoholic...the difference being that the alcoholic loses control because of booze and the wife/husband, kids, boss, parents, etc. lose control because of the alcoholic. Al-Anon will take us on that emotional and mental journey thru our lives to find why we allow the alcoholic to have that type of control over us and, hopefully, find a way to show us how to live fully and happily without anyone being able to take our lives away from us again. (Happy member of Al-Anon here). Even tho I am an alcoholic in recovery, everyone I deal with just about is alcoholic. I needed Al-Anon in order not to be drawn in thru their manipulations (even tho I knew them) because of my emotions. I learned about my emotions...and that emotions and facts were not the same thing. I also learned how to live in facts and not let others influence what I knew was right for me. So Al-Anon is a great way to find and get support and help for ME. Has nothing to do with any of my X husbands, any of my alcoholic friends, or any of my fantasies of what life would be if "HE" would just do what I said. It was about what I truly believed and why I believed it....and to get into reality and away from fantasy....fantasy had kept me in situations just on the hope of that fantasy becoming reality. Am I making myself clear here? I certainly hope so. For me, Al-Anon was about me. Thank God!
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