Are you afraid of dying?

iVillage Member
Registered: 08-25-2013
Are you afraid of dying?
9
Thu, 01-09-2014 - 12:58pm

After suffering a close loss and going through the grief of it all, do you still feel the same towards death? What has changed and how?

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
Thu, 01-09-2014 - 1:27pm
I am not afraid of dying. I am not very religious, but I have a very personal vision of 'heaven'. In my family, the happiest times I remember are sitting around a table after a meal...sometimes we sat so long after lunch that it was time for dinner....and I feel the loss of loved ones as 'empty seats at the table'. My view of heaven is very much like the church basement at a church supper....rows and rows of tables crowded close together...I see all of my departed family members at a big table, my grandmother going to put the kettle on for 'a nice cup of tea', the great food coming one wave after another. I know there will be a seat at that table for me...we will tell the old stories, laugh a lot, and share good food...and not gain a pound!
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-25-2013
Thu, 01-16-2014 - 9:39am

I too have my idea of heaven and it helps comfort me. I always wonder how those who don't believe in heaven comfort themselves with the thought of death.

Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Thu, 01-16-2014 - 9:41pm

Things changed for me when I had my heart attack I think...

Not scared but worried about my kids dd and ds...:(...

Self-care is so important...

Lost a friend last year and my sil...:(...

Another in Decmber...:(...

It's a lot to cope/deal with...

Nightangel
Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Thu, 01-16-2014 - 9:44pm

Like that so much...<3

We were there my dd and I when my sil life support was removed.

Very difficult.

Nightangel
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-11-2012
Wed, 01-22-2014 - 10:56am

I think I am okay with things. No matter what, I know I won't be around forever so I am trying to learn to enjoy my time while I am here.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-24-2003
Wed, 03-19-2014 - 11:31am
I am not afraid of dying. I'm an atheist, to me, dying is falling asleep, for good. What I'm absolutely and horribly terrified of is something happening to the five people on this planet whom I love. This is the source of constant inner terror, anxiety, depression.. call it what you want..
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2014
Fri, 07-04-2014 - 8:14am

Looks like an old post, but I'll answer.  No.  I am afraid of pain/the dying process, not actual death itself.  My view is that there would either be "heaven" (which is great) or nothing (which makes it a non-issue. 

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-04-2014
Fri, 07-04-2014 - 8:14am

Looks like an old post, but I'll answer.  No.  I am afraid of pain/the dying process, not actual death itself.  My view is that there would either be "heaven" (which is great) or nothing (which makes it a non-issue. 

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-28-2007
Thu, 11-06-2014 - 1:18pm

Yes I am afraid of dying because I don't know what is after.

I was raised to believe in God and heaven..and I want to....but like someone says..it either is or it isn't.

I'm hoping it is....I try to live my life like there IS a heaven (being good to others, praying, believing)...but skeptic...for sure. So that brings me fear.  The only time I'm not scared is when I'm in severe depression and don't care.  So someone said they are afraid of the dying process.  I think the dying process would help me move on more smoothly because I would be sick of being sick or sick of being scared...and just want to let go. But like Brittany Maynard...I couldn't take my own life not knowing what was ahead for me.  Not knowing there may be some miracle cure to keep me alive another year.  I don't understand that concept.  But some people are very strong believers...I've been trained to be a believer..but yes...I'm still scared.

Missy