Celebrating the holiday you lost someone on

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-23-2013
Celebrating the holiday you lost someone on
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Mon, 07-08-2013 - 11:49am

The 4th of July has always been a very large event for my family with our annual family reunion. Last year we lost my grandmother early on the morning of the 4th. This year our family reunion was very strained and not anything like the usual yearly event. Everything has changed for us and we all feel odd celebrating but don't want to quit the 4th of July family tradition because Grandma was one of the people who loved it most. Has anyone been through this? Should we just start something new on a different day or work through this somehow?  

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-08-2006
Fri, 07-19-2013 - 3:47pm
My dad's mother died on Christmas Day (before I was born) and my step mother died a week before Christmas. You'd think this would make. My dad hate this holiday, but he remembers. Their joy in preparing for it, and goes all out every year to create a traditional Christmas for us...and I am 57, so it's not lime we are little kids....I do not think that the people who loved us and have died want us to stop doing the things that gave us and them pleasure. You honor your grandmother's memory becoming together as a family and doing what probably made her the happiest - spending time with one another, I bet next year will be easier...
Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
Sun, 07-14-2013 - 11:09pm

It might have been too soon and still very raw your Loss...You could maybe change the date or incorporate something to honour her memory a song or poem just allow yourselves to grieve...maybe a memory book with pictures and stories about her...

~hugs~

<3

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