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Registered: 12-31-1969
Sun, 08-26-2012 - 10:05am

Hello everyone,

Does anyone have any advice on how to handle the crying, its been 2 months since my best friend has passed,I know that is not very long, and I am still very lost.  I just need to get threw my day at work without something triggering a crying spell, I cant control it

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-20-2009
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Sun, 08-26-2012 - 12:19pm

Hey Sweetie,

the crying is a very necessary part of the bereavement process. We need to get those tears flowing as they are part of the healing we go through. Blocking tears can be counte productive and make the healing process slow down or become so blocked, we end up in a worse state than before.

Would you consider talking with your PCP? It could be that you have slipped into depression as a result of all you are dealing with and he/she might have some suggestions to help you through this.

I hate crying in public so I find that if I turn my eyes upwards and keep swallowing, it helps me control the tears until I can slip away into the restroom and cry in privacy.  Or I have a thought distraction that I try to imploy, I deliberately turn my thoughts to something that is strictly non emotional, like a tricky task or something.

I wish I could take this pain from you.



iVillage Member
Registered: 03-20-2009
In reply to: promiseplease
Fri, 09-07-2012 - 12:30pm

We will all heal when the time is right but meanwhile the comfort I have received on this board, the knowing I am not alone, never judged,  has helped me so much and I am always pleased when others feel the same. It is a great sadness that people have to go through the pain of bereavement but at least we know everyone here understands.



Community Leader
Registered: 10-22-2001
In reply to: nightangel67
Sun, 09-09-2012 - 6:05pm


I feel the same way, it is good to be here.

Others understand.