Facing death of a abusive grandparent

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Facing death of a abusive grandparent
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Sat, 04-14-2012 - 1:16pm

My mom's mom was abusive to my mom and her three siblings growing up. Then, when my mom and dad divorced when I was 8, she entered the picture and started the cycle again with me and my three siblings.

Now, she has been given an estimate of one month to live and is dying of leukemia. She's 85 and still controls my mom, which is the main worry for me. My mom and I get along alright but not close. I'm worried about how this will affect my mom when it happens.

So knowing she will probably

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Sun, 04-15-2012 - 5:54am

HI.

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Mon, 04-16-2012 - 12:54pm

Hey,

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Mon, 04-16-2012 - 4:40pm

Thanks so much for the reply.

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Tue, 04-17-2012 - 2:19pm

I guess on of the things we have to deal with in situations like this is that we are facing a bereavement where we wish the person we are losing is not the way we would have wanted them to be and there is no time left for them to change and for us to forgive them. It's hard . It may help your mom to talk to someone who has the same faith system as herself providing they are non judgemental but supportive.

Love

Promise