Helping a friend cope with loss

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Registered: 02-22-2012
Helping a friend cope with loss
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Fri, 02-24-2012 - 2:33pm

My best friend of 40 years suffered two huge losses in 2 years - her father passed away and then her husband - both sudddenly.

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Registered: 11-04-1999
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 5:38am

Hi, and what an awesome friend you are for caring so much.

My Mom died after a 10 day illness May 2010 and my husband suddenly in a traffic accident November 2010 so I went through a similar case as your friend did.

Has she had any grief counseling?

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Registered: 03-20-2009
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 11:50am

Hey,

welcome to the board. You sound like a the best kind of friend to have and I am sure you have helped your friend enormously even though you may not see the results as yet.

As you say, everyone is different and some people



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Registered: 03-20-2009
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 11:55am

Hey Josie,

I hope the surgery is nothing serious.

Love

Promise



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Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 4:46pm

toons10,

Welcome to iVillage.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-20-2009
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 5:19pm

Hey Heidi,

that you so



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Registered: 02-22-2012
Sat, 02-25-2012 - 9:54pm

What a wonderful community and such caring feedback!

iVillage Member
Registered: 11-04-1999
Sun, 02-26-2012 - 7:51am

Thanks for sharing that Heidi.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-20-2009
Sun, 02-26-2012 - 12:07pm

Hey Josie,

that's real hard when one death comes right on top of another while you are still reeling with grief from the first one. It is natural that you would return to missing your mom more as a result.

Love

Promise



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Registered: 03-20-2009
Sun, 02-26-2012 - 12:09pm

~hugs~ Your friend is very blessed to have you in her life and I am sure she appreciates it more than you realize.

Love

Promise



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Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
Wed, 02-29-2012 - 11:33am

toons10,

I just wanted to respond to you and tell you I also take a class in college on Death and Dying (maybe I mentioned that to you already the other day.....)