How is everyone doing?

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How is everyone doing?
Wed, 07-18-2012 - 11:35pm

I am ok...I stil miss Arthur..he has been dead three months, one week and three feels like a life time and like just a blink of an eye.  I pretty much constantly crave his hugs...but I am not crying everyday all day anymore.  I do still have weepy nights sometimes and lots of insomnia.

The big thing I have been really trying to focus on is how to make my life and home how it will work best for my daughter and myself.  A lot of sorting and getting rid of stuff.  I still have tons of boxes from when I moved in with Arthur over a year ago that never got unpacked...I am trying to take care of all that now before the school year starts up again and we are busy with homeschool.

So how are you all doing?  What have you been doing these past few weeks?

*hugs* and love...



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Sat, 08-04-2012 - 4:51am

Welcome Faith.

Sorry on your losses.   Backin 2010: my Mom died in May and then in November my husband of 25+ years died in a vehicle accident.

I am 56 and have had depression since at least age 13; so I hear you on that one too.

I am working with a therapist to get strong enough to cope as a widow and to help my relationship skills.

Have you considered doing a grief group?  Churches have them as well as Hospice.

Hope you keep on posting.  hugs,  Josie

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Registered: 03-20-2009
Sun, 08-05-2012 - 11:21am

Hey Faith,

a warm welcome to the board although I am sorry for the reasons that have brought you to us.

You sure have taken a battering with two bereavements so very close together. I know that we can not take your pain from you, impossible though I sure do wish I could, but here you have found a safe haven where you will get as much support as we can possibly give you.

It is normal, unfortunately, for weight issues and depression to be even more affected by bereavement, as is insomnia.

I am real sorry that you don't have anyone to support you IRL. I know we all try and stay strong for others but we need support ourselves and here I know you will find it.  Does your church offer and bereavement support groups that you can attend or would any type of counseling be available to you.