Intense grieving for a pet

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Registered: 01-16-2013
Intense grieving for a pet
Sun, 05-05-2013 - 11:07am

Is it normal for someone to go through such grief over a cat that they have to miss work for a week or could something else be going on? I have a friend that lost her 13 year old cat last week and she is completely overwhelmed. She hasn't eaten much and hasn't been to work in a week. Is this normal? What can be done to help; should we get her another cat?

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Community Leader
Registered: 10-10-2007
Mon, 05-06-2013 - 3:03pm

I honestly don't have the answer to your question.  What is normal is such a difficult question, you know.

I have not ever had a cat, so unfortunately, I cannot say I understand.  But, please know I am still here to support and listen.

I think I did hear that getting a new animal right away may not be a good idea.

What does everyone else think?


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Registered: 01-16-2013
Tue, 05-07-2013 - 8:41am

People can become very attached to pets and many treat them like they would a child so losing a dear pet can be completely devastating. I've heard that you should not rush out and try to replace a pet that has passed right away as you need to give the owner time to grieve. I'd say just like with any situation of grief, be there to listen when your friend wants to talk.

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Registered: 01-03-2001
Tue, 05-07-2013 - 8:45am

Hi Phyllis,

I am so sorry to hear about your friend's loss. You may want to drop by our Pet Loss & Bereavement board (or invite your friend to join and check it out) for some additional thoughts.

Good luck!